So this story has happened to me once 4 years ago (I mean like this) and now I see it goes to be
the same so I need your advice. I fall in love with a guy but then I love him so hard or maybe
that's not love at all just the desire to love him because I like some of his features. So this
time I've fallen in love with a guy on-line. He lives in another country. When we've talked for
the first time he was so fascinated by me! He invited me to spend summer in his country for
serious and all the time called me dear and all the other sweet words. But I didn't think he was
serious and didn't like him that much so quickly! But then I started to like him more and more
with each day and as I liked him more and more he seemed to start paying less and less attention
to me. We also called each othe by microphone. So at first everything was wonderful and he
always kissed me in the end, I was even surprised at first. But then I started to kiss him to
and he stopped doing this. As I was falling in love more and more I wanted to chat with him more
and more + I had to tell him very many things. And he seemed to pay less attention to me. Then
he started to tell me "I am studying, sorry I can't speak, I want to study not talk to you"
almost every time I entered. And yesterday he has even gone offline when I entered. I understand
he has exams now but I have exams too and still can find time for him! These days we've chatted
a bit but he doesn't tell me any gentle words any more. And today I asked him very very much to
talk by microphone and we talked, this was just like exchanging information because there were a
lot of information to exchange, but later I asked him why he has changed so much since the
beginning and he told me he doesn't know, he just writes what he wants, if he feels so he writes
this, and told me "let it go". He doesn't talk about spending summer any more... I asked him if
he still likes me and he told "yes" but I'm not sure how it sounded... And what was 4 years ago
and how it has ended. I've fallen in love with a guy when he was singing on the concert. The
next day I've bought a book on the mind power and how to acheeve what we want. I've done
everything like it was in this book and made it so that me and that guy got to know each other
"accidentaly" in the bus. He was the same fascinated by me. We went for a walk immediately and
walked for 8 hourse!!! We couldn't stop (for comparing when we first chatted with the guy I like
these days we chatted for 5 hours what is all long!). And then it was the New Year and we've
spent it together and then the next day he has asked me if we can marry very soon (we were only
17 then!) I was surprised but happy! But then the same situation only with another thing. He
lives really far from me and I wanted him to take me home after I was at his house because it
was late and I was afraid to go by myself, he didn't but I asked him a lot and he did. And also
there were times when I asked him to spend more time with me when he already wanted to go (and
the same it is now when I ask the new guy to spend more time chatting or not to stop talking by
microphone). And then that first boy has broken up with me telling me he's not ready for such
serious relationships and also he told me he couldn't stand that I asked him to stay more when
he wanted to go. This new one has not told me this yet... Maybe I can still do something. It's
repeating for the second time! I must have learnt from my previous experience! I don't want this
to happen again! What can I do if I can do something? Or maybe not doing anything is the best?
Why do they react so greatly on me in the beginning and then they change like this? I guess if I
attrackt them in the beginning I can learn how to continue this. And am I right that if they
liked me really they wouldn't mind to talk more and stay more as I asked or am I wrong? Help me
with your advice please! It will be very appreciated!!!
Thank you,
Maria
PS: I've had some more boys after the first one but the situation was different.
2006-12-06 10:05:16 · 9 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hmm.. it takes time to build a relationship, it takes a very long time to build one of intimacy. Take time to know that person before you decide if this truly is a guy for you. By the way, don't get too emotional, feelings are good but they have down sides too. And don't open up yourself too much too fast, that can bring a lot of harm to you.
2006-12-06 10:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jerle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. You certainly type a lot. And a lot of it does not make sense, either that or I stopped paying attention.
Well, it sounds like you are falling in and out of love a lot. If you can even call it love. I say, enjoy falling in and out of love while you are young. Don't take any of the boys seriously. Enjoy their company. Just be sure to always keep yourself safe. You worry too much. You put too much pressure on yourself to make something, anything work. Lighten up.
So my advice is don't worry, be happy. Stop and smell the flowers, don't go cutting them up, putting them in vases, crushing them between two books for remembrance, or putting them in wedding arrangements. Seriously.
2006-12-06 10:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by joycedomingo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically - Guys need space. we rush in at first, and it sounds like when he asked for more you just teased. he realized he wouldn't get honey and turned to other things. you can only hold the interest of a man for so long without giving something to him.
2006-12-06 10:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tom 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, keep giving love. Have you ever thought that maybe you don't love them? People keep asking - the other doesn't love me. Nobody ever says, I don't love the other. Forget about the other loving you. Forget totally about the other. You're just looking for love, but not loving.
2006-12-06 10:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Maus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont put up with that stuff where the guy is all sweet at first but then he starts to not pay attention any more. you should wait for the right guy who will always pay attention to you.
2006-12-06 10:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, how old are you? You are still naive and immature. Wait a while and be careful of guys.
2006-12-06 10:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do you talk this much to your boyfriends? Maybe that's why you sense they are pulling away from you.
2006-12-06 10:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by nondescript 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, too long. I lost interest. Edit it down a bit. seriously.
2006-12-06 10:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You were infatuated, not in love. Love cannot be lost. Therefore you need not worry. :)
2006-12-06 10:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by sashromancefreak 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋