My dad has been an alcoholic for 13 years now and im 15 and well he got in trouble with the law and like i love him and he stopped drinking but he is hiding it from us that he is drinking being little a long time a go i remmeber him just sitting in silence then finally after 2 days crying he loved me with all his heart but that love keepsbreaking! WHY WHY ME? i am a girl standing in front oh her daddy asking him to stop drinking but wont it hurt hius feelings will he runaway will he understand what can i do i need so much help this is then first time i have ever told anyone about this so plz take it easy on me okay!!!
2006-12-06 09:57:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hay kid anytime you wanna talk to me feel free i'm from a long line of alcoholics and drug addiction and mental problems I got it coming from all angles, anyways when someone has that disease it comes from genes and also pain and they never stop until there ready and please please dont make the mistake of setting yourself up for disapointment thinking that his baby girl asking him to stop should be enough and that if he doesnt he doesnt love you. First of think again second off it has nothing to do with his love for you believe me this disease is a personal issue with him no matter how much he loves you and wants to quit he has to come to terms with some things for and with himself before that will ever happen and no matter how many years they quit in between or how many treatments until they come to those terms and truly want to quit do they. Believe me I'm an addict myself and I have a 3 yr old dtr that is not w/me because of it and I love her more than anyone or anything in this world and suffer even more because of the pain i've now caused her in my own lifes trials my point is no matter how much I loved her and wanted to quit that isnt enough to take the pain away of the issues you think you have prior to the issues you get from using, and then all the things that happen while your using and your family hurting just makes the pain get deeper and you just want to do it more its a vary selfish thing but still vary complicated sorry i'm rambling as usual anyways what can you do is not set yourself up for the disapintment know in your mind and heart that you father is what he is and he still loves you, dont ask him for things you know he cant committ to to prove his love try to have a relationship w /him that is possible and reasonable and effective. think about what you do have together and go off of that walks, bowling whatever and be a friend to him I know he's the parent but again he is what he is and usually anyone who gets in there way or causes more pain wether jutified or not they avoid and stay away from any kind of dealing with so if you do want a relationship keep it simple and your going to have to be somewhat of an adult here if its important enough for you to have. If so try letting him know how important he is to you and that your there for him and want to be a duaghter and a friend that way he wont avoid the situation and your relationship will last throughout the disease and beyond, Good Luck and I cant wrap this up into a simple answer theres so much more to it kimrulong@sbcglobal.net
2006-12-06 10:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im assuming you're within the UK? The legislation assumes that a baby has the correct to each mother and father UNLESS there's a chance concerned. Your solicitor will speak approximately a Re:L listening to, L being the preliminary of the baby that pioneered this element of household legislation circumstances. If there's a chance to the chil or the mother or father, bodily, sexually or psychologically, then touring rights and entry will definately NOT be automated. Probably, entry shall be granted a a discuss with centre, in which he's going to be supervised with the baby for might be a million/two hour. But so that it will simplest occur if he's considered as a MINOR or no chance. If he's considered as a precise chance to you or the baby, then entry is probably not granted. Change your telephone quantity, transfer deal with, make it elaborate for them to harrass you. Have you concerned the police? If they have got a list of his violence, he has a crook list, and him turning up under the influence of alcohol, then this may increasingly depend on your favour. Im talking from revel in. My ex positioned me via all of the above via spite. I obtained entry (supervised at a million/two hour) for six months, stretching to an hour then two. Then after nine months i used to be allowed to take my baby out for two hours unsupervised. Even now, I opt for to preserve a buddy, my mom, or the elder baby (now not mine) round as a witness, simply to hide my again. And the legislation was once this wary, DESPITE the truth that i've a utterly blank crook list, am a liable, mature official, hired, and am a nearby Justice of the Peace! So on your case, i believe there's a very well hazard he is probably not granted entry. But be certain that the police are most often trained whilst he calls or threatens, be certain there's a 'paper path' for the longer term. Take a restrining order out to give up him coming in your apartment, or greater nonetheless, your mom does it, as its her apartment. Then you're taking one out to give up him coming inside (eg) 50 toes of you - even within the road.
2016-09-03 11:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by bollinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I went thru that with my mom. Its time you stand up and tell him. You could try writing a letter about what it does to you and how he acts. If this doesn't get to him its time to lett the family know and have a sit down and all talk to him. If none of this works then tell him you will leave. This might come as a scare and he might change for you. Good Luck
2006-12-06 10:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww your just a baby!! Girl, you just need to let go and let God. Just pray to God. Do you go to church? Well if you do, let someone know there that you trust, so that they can get more people to pray for your dad. I had that problem once. We prayed and prayed it took about 7 years of praying but it works!! My dad now doesnt drink and he is a born-again Christian!! Just dont let it get to you, try to keep yourself busy, do homework, play a sport do something so you wont have to think about your dad. He is a grown man and he needs to make decisions on his own. He will relize it one day and then you could tell him everything that you feel. Also, try seeking a counselor. It seems like you need someone to talk to about it!
2006-12-06 10:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by ClaralubsEli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are very frustrated. i know how you feel. my father drank when i was young and he put us through much. i showed him alot of love and prayed for him. after i left home my dad and mom divorced, i kept praying and showing my love and one day my brother came home from school and found my father in the living room praying. he stopped drinking and started going to church.ask your father if he is willing to go and get help because you love him and would like to see him free from drinking. call this number and talk to these caring people. this number is 24 hours 1-330-929-5010
2006-12-06 10:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father about his drinking and tell him how much it bothers you. His drinking is tearing your family apart, and if he doesn't change his ways soon, there will be a huge problem. You can't force your father to seek help and he must do that for himself. I know that your father loves you, but he must decide what's best for himself. Good luck to you!
2006-12-06 10:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism is a disease,
you can try to go to an alanon meeting, and there will be kids your own age and some older ones, they' can help you and talk to you.
its free so why not go.
he can't help it, if he could stop just for you i am sure he would,
but he can't, so please, try to get some free counseling and go to an alanon meeting, they can and will help you.
or you can call some Bahai's , that is the religious group i am a part of, they will come and help you.
1.800.22 unite
i am praying for you baby.
2006-12-06 10:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is a alcoholic to, I have been telling my dad but he dont listen so I just tell him straight out that ****** BEER IS BAD he cries but the truth hurts if he really loved you he would have been stoped drinking theysay it is hard but they dont try hard enough
2006-12-06 10:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him go get help .Some people have to have their world fall apart before they go for help . Try to express your feelings and see if that does anything .
2006-12-06 10:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋