My son (6) and my little girl (13 months) are friends with our neighbor's boy (3). He always wants to come over and play with them, but he is very unruly and lacks home training. Even my baby girl understands NO and STOP THAT. With my son, it's no question. However, my son loves playing with this little boy, but I can only tolerate him in very small doses on a good day because he will not obey the rules in my house, he tells me to "shut up" and "go to hell" when I ask him to do something...THEN, when his mother finally comes for him, he does not want to leave, and so he's in my house punching her and calling her B words and screaming "I hate you mommy!" and biting her and thrashing...all while she is LAUGHING!!! Even my baby girl looks at him and then looks at me like, "WTF is wrong with him?"
Should I cancel their playing all together? Or talk to the mother about this? I don't want my kids thinking it's okay to act that way.
2006-12-06 09:56:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
use him as an example of how NOT to act.
2006-12-06 09:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk with the mother because she obviously knows what is happening so go straight to the source itself.
Go over to the kid and say - "Timmy in our house we don't behave like that - if you continue I will call you mother and ask her to take you home early" don't say any more and don't be wishy washy - if he does something that you don't aprove of call the mother immediately and send him home(do not engage him in any other talk and do not lecture him). Wait 2 weeks before he can come into your house give him same speech but add this was you 2nd warning next time you will not be allowed back at all . If he does not comply then call the mother send him home . You kids will get the best lesson - knowing one should respect you and that you mean what you say.
Life is about showing your own children examples and living by them - you are not that boys parent and you don't need to educate him - but he will learn a valuable lesson from you .
2006-12-06 10:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by prettymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Thas a Bad as Kid..I hate to say.. and his Mom is laughing? Wow.. well that's got something to do with why the kid is such a Brat, I dont think his mother would listen to you though.. I am sure that you would not be the 1st to comment about her childs behavior and she obviously doesn't know how, or is not worried about changing it...I coudn't have that either.. I have a 4 year old little girl.. and she is very mindful to me, but when i pick her up from her Aunties house were she plays with my bad *** nephew.. she comes back talking crazy to me.. saying things that she has learned , and doing things she would not noramally do...So it will rub off.. and I would not let him come over and play.. just be real with his mom... Tell him ..your little boy needs some serious disipline, and she looks like a fool who lets her kid run all over her.. buy not addressing that issue... O I'm off work now.. gotta go.... hope i helped
2006-12-06 10:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this kid needs some major counseling or just a good ole butt whippin. I would talk to the mother and tell her that you do not want your kids around that kind of behavior and if he cant behave and show some respect then he will not be invited back over. Your son may be angry at first, but he will respect you for it in the long run. Maybe you could take your son to some sort of play group for kids his age to meet a new friend. Good luck!
2006-12-06 09:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the parent of that boy and let them know that it is not okay for this to be happening. See if there is anything you can do to help her. You guys are neighbors so you will be living close for awhile I am guessing. You children will be in contact with each other for years! Your children will pick up on that. Talk to her and see if there is something that you could be doing.. but untill things are a little better, I would keep him away from your kids.
2006-12-07 00:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had the same problem. She thought her family could be a safe place for the child and that would teach the girl some manners. They found out that blood is thicker than water, meaning that the girl ended up like her drunken mother any way. this girl was also a bad influence on my friends kids. You may have to cancel the play dates if no one is strong enough to teach this kid how to respect anyone.
2006-12-06 10:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by created 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I can already see the situation if you talk to the mom she's going to get defensive which is how most of the moms that don't educate their kids get when you tell them something about how their kids act, so I would suggest your kids stop playing with that little boy just tell him that he can't come over then the mom eventually will want to know why and just tell her the truth then that way if she gets upset you just tell her the truth.
Hey your kids are first you don't want them turning into some little rebels.
2006-12-06 10:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would no longer allow them to play together. He is setting a bad example for your children. Thats all you need, your children to start behaving like that. Your kids are more important than worrying about their feelings. If you want your kids to play with someone call the local Parents as Teachers and find a play group. Or you could call a local church and see if they have mothers day out program.
2006-12-06 10:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think after the boy leaves, you should sit down with your own children and let them know that his behavior is naughty and that you don't want them to act like that. Obviously his parents are teaching him how to be this way. I wouldn't confront the mom, because chances are she's the same way, or her husband is abusive and that might start something with him. I think you should just try to limit the amount of time the other boy spends at your house. Next time he comes over, just tell him you guys are too busy to have friends over. good luck
2006-12-06 09:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to the mother and lay down the ground rules for when her child is in your house, and vice versa. If the other boy can't follow your rules while he is a guest, then no play dates. I would personally be embarrassed to death if my child acted the way your neighbor's did.
2006-12-06 09:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The next time that he comes over, lay down the rules. I will tell you when you have said or done something wrong once and only once. If you continue to misbehave, I will make you sit in this chair and not move from it for 5 minutes. If you refuse, then you will be sent home. You should tell the child's Mom that you are going to try this discipline.
2006-12-06 10:04:37 · answer #11 · answered by Freedom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋