Do I have an anger problem?

Question

At school I do not have a lot of friends (I am shy) and i know everyone thinks i am weird like nerdy (even though i dress the same as them and go to the mall & movies etc.) whenever someone makes me mad i want to hurt them, i mean beat them up gun, i cuss whoever gets in my way out even if they werent a part of it. I get in constant fights (verbal harrassing and physical) with anyone who pisses me off (even over something stupid) sorry this is hard to follow, what should I do about this problem?

Answer 1

yo calm down... i will b prayin for you... just take it slow... you are already accepted you dont need to do anything to be accepted.. everyone gets mad... just control the anger.. dont let it control you

Answer 2

Dude,
Yeah, you've got an anger problem. But I think your bigger problem is self esteem. You say you are shy and nerdy, but that you pick fights and are verbally abusive. These two are not traits that go together. You need to figure out what you're upset about and let it go. If you don't, it will continue to eat you up. Talk to an adult you trust. If not your dad, maybe a favorite uncle or cousin. If neither of these are available to you, talk to someone. You say you have a few friends, let them help you. I was like you in high school, just take a deep breath and ignore people who make you mad. Trust yourself. Peace.

Answer 3

well i'm not sure if it's anger or a bigger issue of being bipolar....
i think you need to talk to your parents about getting you in to see a therapist. If it is bipolar there are drugs that you can take to help. If not then I suggest some anger managment classes to teach you better ways to cope with your anger issues. Whatever the problem is I hope you get the help you need before it gets to the point that my best friend had to deal with.(she threatened to cut a guys privates off) and ended up in legal trouble.

Answer 4

You answered your own question, seek another creative outlet to use instead of violence , it seems like you currently have enough control over it to know it's wrong to feel that way sometimes. I suggest counseling too. Someone you can talk to about these frustrations so they can teach you how to cope with them instead of being violent. oh and screw the kids in your school. They are cruel. be who you are and love being it who cares what they think. You'll find your niche.

Answer 5

yes body you do - from your question i believe that you realize that its not other people who treating you poorly but it is you who is way too sensitive and easy to break

you need to relax a lil bit and learn to accept things the way they are and not care too much for what people say- keep saying to yourself screw them, they dont know what they are talking about because you know they dont so why care anyway

Answer 6

Anger is something that only grows worse if left untreated. That's the bad news... the good news is that you can learn real skills that will in fact change your life. I get a ton of emails about Anger through my website http://www.attackanxiety.com So you are not alone.

Anger is a very powerful emotion that can stem from feelings of frustration, hurt, annoyance or disappointment. It is a normal human emotion that can range from slight irritation to strong rage.

Anger can be harmful or helpful, depending upon how it is expressed. Knowing how to recognize and express anger in appropriate ways can help people to reach goals, handle emergencies and solve problems. However, problems can occur if people fail to recognize and understand their anger.

What Are the Dangers of Suppressed Anger?

Suppressed anger can be an underlying cause of anxiety and depression. Anger that is not appropriately expressed can disrupt relationships, affect thinking and behavior patterns, and create a variety of physical problems. Chronic (long-term) anger has been linked to health issues such as high blood pressure, heart problems, headaches, skin disorders and digestive problems. In addition, anger can be linked to problems such as crime, emotional and physical abuse, and other violent behavior.

What Steps Can I Take to Help Manage My Anger?


When you start feeling angry, try deep breathing, positive self-talk, or stopping your angry thoughts. Breathe deeply from your diaphragm. Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax" or "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply until the anger subsides.
Although expressing anger is better than keeping it in, anger should be expressed in an appropriate way. Frequent outbursts of anger are often counter-productive and cause problems in relationships with others. Anger outbursts are also stressful to your nervous and cardiovascular systems and can make health problems worse. Learning how to use assertiveness is the healthy way to express your feelings, needs and preferences. Being assertive can be used in place of using anger in these situations.
Seek out the support of others. Talk through your feelings and try to work on changing your behaviors.
If you have trouble realizing when you are having angry thoughts, keep a log of when you feel angry.
Try to gain a different perspective by putting yourself in another's place.
Learn how to laugh at yourself and see humor in situations.
Practice good listening skills. Listening can help improve communication and can facilitate trusting feelings between people. This trust can help you deal with potentially hostile emotions.
Learn to assert yourself, expressing your feelings calmly and directly without becoming defensive, hostile or emotionally charged up. Consult self-help books on assertiveness or seek help from a professional therapist to learn how to use assertiveness and anger management skills.

What Else Can I Do to Deal With My Anger in a Healthy Way?
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If you believe that your anger is out of control and is having a negative affect on your life and relationships, seek the help of a mental health professional. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you to develop techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior. A mental health professional can help you to deal with your anger in an appropriate way. Choose your therapist carefully and make sure to seek treatment from a professional who is trained to teach anger management and assertiveness skills.

I hope this helps.

Answer 7

Yes u do get some help!

Answer 8

Yes, you have a rage problem. Find a trustworthy adult to help you find the right place to get help. I am a prison minister. Please get help so we don't have to meet.

Answer 9

yes

Answer 10

calm your self down! and yes you have a anger problem!