my boyfriends 2 years older than me and hes never said anything about sex the whole time we were going out. but the other day he asked me if i was a virgin and i am and his response was "oh we'll have to change that" i know he was joking but i just cant get it out of my head. what should i do?
2006-12-06 09:37:31 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 14 (almost 15) hes 16 (almost 17) and i dont want to have sex and we've been going out for almost 2.5 months
2006-12-06 09:42:43 · update #1
Don't take it so seriously. A lot of times guys will say that joking around. PLUS even if he was serious, it doesn't mean anything bad. It doesn't mean he needs to take it right away. You're the one that decides when you want to give it up. If he starts making more comments like that, tell him how you feel. If he doesn't understand then just let him go.
2006-12-06 09:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thank goodness he's not gay. You know he was joking so no big deal. Your that age when your not going to get it out of your head and that is normal. Quietly ask your friends at school about what other girls in long term relationships are doing. 30 years ago all the cheerleaders were pregnate. Then came planned parenthood. I don't now what they do today. If you feel pressured, you'll feel used, but if you want it and he doesn't, then that sucks too. You will just have to talk with him about each others life long term stuff. Start at where you both want to be in 5 years.
2006-12-06 10:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to set the young man straight as to your not wanting sex (and, by the way, congrats on being a virgin). You guys are too young (whether others agree or not) to be having sex anyway. Oh, the parts are there, but both of you need to mature. He should not have taken your virginity so lightly. He offended you and you deserve an apology. He might have just been feeling you out for a possible venture. Joking or not, the comment was inappropriate, and you should set him straight on it right away. If he leaves you over it, he ain't worth spit anyway. Don't worry, you have plenty of time to find the right guy and remain a virgin. If they don't stay with you without sex, I sure wouldn't give myself to a guy who won't give of himself first in honoring your wishes. You are not unreasonable, so get out there and demand more respect for who and what you are. Good luck.
2006-12-06 09:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's floating a trial balloon to see how you feel (and get you to verify your virginity). Just laugh it off, say "you wish" or something that shows you don't fully go along with the joke, but don't slap his face or anything. When he's ready to ask you seriously you can discuss it seriously. Hope you're at least 17, that's about the youngest someone can understand what sex means. Oh, and you need to see your doctor beforehand too. It's a big question. Waiting is usually best. Good luck!
2006-12-06 09:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, he's 2 years older than me too(I'm 18,almost19, he's 20 almost21)I'm still a virgin, and he has never pressured me about sex. He always says when I'm ready,"He'll change that." Don't do something just because everybody else is doing it. What do you want? What are you ready for?
2006-12-06 11:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is backing off all you are able to do when you've tried talking to him is to enable him flow. possibly he's no longer having a situation with you, he should be having a situation with himself. You 2 determined now to not have sex and he gave in. i imagine you should properly be performing too quick transferring into yet another courting so quickly. that's no longer required that you've a boyfriend, possibly you should take a destroy and basically have relaxing which include your acquaintances for awhile.
2016-10-16 12:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by malinowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably means he plans to change that. if you've not had a clear discussion about sex now may be the time. If you intend on being a virgin until youre married you need to tell him that. You also dont say how old you are. in some states a 2 year age difference could constitute statatory rape
2006-12-06 09:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first, how old are you? I hope you're not 12 or 14 for that matter
If it makes you uncomfortable you better tell him immediately! Like you don't know this already but guys think of sex every 60 seconds (well at least I do and I'm pretty confident I can speak for 97% of straight men)He was joking but ...they say..."many truths are said in jest" He was testing the waters...
2006-12-06 09:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sam Adams 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you know the risks of having sex so I won't bother with that. All I'm going to say is that 14 is too young. Think about your future.
2006-12-06 09:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by p_m_20001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old are you? If you're ready to do it then go for it - if you're waiting for marriage then maybe you should talk to him about it and let him know that it's not going to happen now and if that's what he's looking for then you need to break up.
Don't change your values for someone else - especially a boy.
2006-12-06 09:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋