we are having a baby and the mother has decided to move without letting us know. prior to her moving we were going to be extremely involved with the baby (I have other children and play a big role). I don't want to just never see my child, and i believe I will provide a much better and stable environment.
2006-12-06 09:32:45 · 6 answers · asked by milah mae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Has she moved yet? If she hasn't march right up to the courthouse and get a "temporary parenting plan" and file it on the spot. You need to set a hearing and it should keep her in the state until you are able to come up with a plan. Then you need to file for paternity. You have to prove the child is yours with a blood test or the court won't do anything for you.
If they have moved then you need to file the same thing in your daughters county. The jurisdiction is wherever your daughter is.
Once those are filed you can petition the court for partial custody and she has to prove it is in the child best interest to move out of state.
Unless the mom has serious issues (ie:drugs, child abuse, neglect) you will not get sole custody. Courts now a days recognise that in order to have a healthy minded child, they need to have BOTH parent's in thier life. Not one or the other.
If you have any more questions email me at jamers2004@gmail.com
2006-12-06 10:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by jamiereeser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the baby's father, you have a right to be in the baby's life.
Get a paternity test to document you legally as the father.
Take the mother to court to have visitation and custody schedules determined.
It is next to impossible for you to get full custody of a newborn. Newborns need their mothers, unless you can prove her unfit due to neglect, mental illness, or substance or physical abuse. You will need evidence, not opinion, if you want to prove she's unfit.
Pay child support, no matter how the mother treats you. It sets a really good example to the courts, and is what's best for the child.
When you go to court, tell the judge about your plans to move closer to your baby. I don't know what state you live in, but when you've established paternity and visitation in most states, the custodial parent has a difficult time moving far away enough to prevent you from seeing the child.
More than anything, always treat the mother, in and out of court, as best you can. The child would benefit from two loving parents if possible. Judges are pretty smart about knowing when claims are for spite. Keep your focus on the baby's best interests.
Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-12-06 17:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless the mother is unfit, let the child stay with its mother and see the child when you can. You should have thought about that a few months ago when you were making a baby with a woman that you were not going to be with. I'm sure at this point you know what a condom is. Try using them and you won't have this problem. If she moves out of state, you will not be playing a big part of this kid's life.
2006-12-06 17:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't win custody of your newborn baby unless you can somehow prove that the mother won't be fit to care for the baby. Otherwise, no court of law will take a baby from it's mother. And you shouldn't try to unless you know or can prove she can't take care of the baby. You could possibly get joint custody of some sort. But just as badly as you want to be in the child's life, I am sure the mother feels the same way and would be heartbroken if she couln't ever see her baby. So try to work something out where both of you have a part in the baby's life. Good luck
2006-12-06 18:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by infiniteparis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no the mother is the mother you idiot. don't even TRY!! a child needs its mother more than its father..and if u really wanted wants best for BABY u would stop being so selfish. physical environment is nothing compared to a mother. so THERE!!
2006-12-06 17:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
get a lawyer see what they say. you have to prove you are the better parent and she pretty much has to be unstable mentally or hurting herself... good luck to you.
2006-12-06 22:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋