A special kiss is all i want?

Question

okay, i'm in 9th grade and have never got my REAL first kiss, i know it's really sad and pathetic but i'm actually popular,pretty, and i have alot of friends, and a good personality, but i just havent found the right guy yet, i've dated, quite a few ppl, but i've never kissed anyone is that wierd? how can i get one and what are some tips

(by the way)most of my friends have went all-the-way and it's ebarrasing that i havent even kissed someone =P

plz help! thanks

Answer 1

Confusion and self-doubt combined with raging hormones is a bad mix, sorry, I can remember being there. Don't worry about your overactive friends, their casualness about sex doesn't mean they even know HOW to do any of it properly (as well as pregnancy, STD's and lack of anything meaningful relationships b/c of a sluty reputation).

When YOU decide you're ready...you could start with:

1) Small kisses, no tongue. No pawing. Do not do peck on the cheek for a guy you really like (guys hate that, it's a FRIENDs thing to do), but grab his upper or lower lip in your mouth and lightly suck it.

2) Next step is the "church" tongue, from the "Wedding Singer"....don't drool, that's gross. Light tongue across the lip where his tongue can lightly touch yours. NOT A face masher.

3) Working your way up, and if you're into it, "Frenching" (lol, I'm laughing at writing that) is fine, but don't let the boys do it if you hate it. It's gross with smokers (if you don't smoke), garlic eaters and the like. Brush your TEETH if you're concerned about bad breath. Don't torpedo your tongue violently, it's a light weight version of thumb wrestling for tongues, not tonsils.

Things to remember about sex:
If a boy pushes too hard or threatens to leave you in the middle of nowheresville if you don't put out, Screw him. Call his bluff, and have your CHARGED cell phone and call your da' or mum, and then TP his house later for being an azzzz, mom might help you do it, haha. Don't drink out on a date. It's the oldest technique in the book for sleazy guys to attack girls. Don't sleep with a guy because you don't want him to leave you (a.k.a. the lonely girl), there's plenty of other fish in the sea.

Have fun with all of it. It's supposed to be pleasureable, and if it's not tell your partner. Anyone who doesn't listen doesn't really care about you and is not worth it, and therefore not worthy of anything more special. Don't convince yourself to believe guys that tell you that they love you, that's mostly lies, and lying to yourself is what many want nowadays (see Cinderella complex) it's still wrong. You can see right through them when you don't put out and they are no longer calling you. A real guy who likes you would progress at a pace where you're BOTH comfortable.

Don't always think it's a race to get there, it's the scenery that's the best. It's the mutual exploration. You might kiss one boy different than another. Try different things with a partner and listen to them. Trust makes intimacy and feelings and pleasure go to new heights.

Answer 2

The reason you get a kiss is because you are proud of being popular. Who cares? Popular people have their own little circles and they can never get out. Calling yourself "popular" isn't going to do you any good. People won't like you for that. Your friends are either all losers (they might not be) or they just don't really care that much about being "popular".

I have a lot of high school friends who call themselves "popular". The matter of fact is, then, that I am too. However, I never call myself that. You want to know why? Because nobody cares. Ever school is different. You could have no friends at my school but be homecoming queen at yours. The point is, getting a date simply requires you to be kind to people. If you are good looking and have the right attitude, somebody is going to eventually kiss you. I give kisses on my first date. Most boys do. I think that if you keep your eyes open and don't just hang out with all the "popular" people all the time, you will get lots and lots of kisses.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Girlfriend, I didn't have my first kiss until I was almost in the TENTH grade and I was so scared! And I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18.
Just don't rush it, or kiss any old guy that comes along (same goes for sex) because when you're older you will regret it. That special guy will come along, I promise.
In the mean time, focus on your studies and make something of yourself. The surest way to attract a decent man is to be intelligent and have good self esteem!
xoxo!

Answer 4

It isnt weird that u havent had ur first kiss yet. everyone goes at their own pace. yea some of ur friends went far but at least ur waiting until maybe u kno a little more to do anything. i dont think its embarrasing at all because i dont even like kissing that much! but when u want to kiss someone, just lean in to the person and tilt ur head up so ur lips can meet theirs. its pretty common that the guy will make the first move, but u just have to relax. its easy, not too much tongue (if any at all), just a little bit. keep it clean and fun. kissing isnt all that bad....

Answer 5

this is scary but I'm RIGHT THERE WITH YA HUN. I'm waiting for the right guy, but now days all guys are pretty much brainwashed by XBOX 360 and all that crap. If you want a REAL man, I say look for one that can't afford that crap.

also, I wouldn't look till my junior or senior year, maybe even after that, all highschool guys care about is one thing if ya know what I mean, and it turns out your friends have given in.

Answer 6

You shoudln't worry too much about it. Don't try and force something becasue then you may not end up enhoying it. Just wait for that rght guy to come along and you'll see how it can truly feel when you feel a certain way about someone.

Answer 7

I Don't think i can help you i can just say i Feel For you.. i haven't either so don't feel bad. Mmk.. Well i can't find the right person either.. like im the same way im pretty but i just don't know.. just keep living and you'll find sombody.. that you'll wanta kiss and it'll happen

Much <33

Naners

Answer 8

dont worry if all our friends have done it. dont compare yourself to others. u will get a chance to get your kiss, and it will be great. just dont plan too much or anything. just find the guy you like, then it will happen. and dont do anything you are not comfortable with

Answer 9

You're special! Don't be embarrassed! Be special! Wait for the right person and time, and you will never regret it. You will have special memories for forever!

Answer 10

Seriously*U R NOT POPUALR*

All of my friends have alleast made out with a guy & *including me*****im in 7th grade*


And i know that i am popular because.....

In my health class i have to sit next to a total geek. So my friends that sit around me always make fun of him.....like if he isnt smiling we say...."Put on a smile", but he just ignores us.....so the other day i was messing around with him during class and i asked him who he thought was popular.....he named a few of my friends, my boyfriend.....and then me! So if you think im not popular then u have an other thing coming...