We broke up a few months ago, we were dating for several years. I recently went out on ONE date that ended with a kiss on the cheek, I only told him because he asked me to tell him if and when that time came. I ended the relationship. I am happy with my decision, he was and still is very good to me but his family is added stress in my life and he finally is doing something with himself...dont get me wrong he is or was no bum but I feel like I was moving forward and he was staying right there. I feel like we just grew apart. we got a dog, he is with me now, after i told my ex about the date he was obviously hurt and said if i start dating this guy he really doesnt want our dog around him constantly..maybe because he is afraid that our dog will like the other guy more? Thats just it..i dont know what will happen with this new guy...its still fresh...dont even know if there will be another date yet. i dont want to hurt him anymore, but at the same time i want to be single and independent.
2006-12-06 09:16:24 · 14 answers · asked by Stargazer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your ex is trying to control you by threatening to take your dog away. He's not "over you". He's trying to manipulate you.
Possession is 9/10ths of the law. If the dog lives with you, it's your dog, he can't take it away.
Your ex needs to back off and let you live your life. He doesn't own you.
2006-12-06 09:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by steve d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the dog lives with you and your ex told you that you can have the dog when you broke up, the dog is your property. Just as if it were a couch or a shirt or whatever. The law views pets as property. If your ex is that petty you need to stay away from him and keep him away from your home and your dog. If he has keys to your place, change the locks. If he were to take the dog you could then file charges with the police because he stole your dog. The dog is a dog, not a child. He can buy a new dog. Just like you can get a new boyfriend. Cut the strings with the ex and move on. Some people you have no choice but to hurt their feelings because they don't get the hint when you are nice.
Good luck.
2006-12-06 09:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by rnntexas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the dog. It is obviously a point of contention and how would your new boyfriend feel if you and your ex's dog was there. It would like having a picture of you and your ex still up. Just a constant reminder and point of stress your new relationship doesn't need. Even if this new guy doesn't work out you will eventually meet someone. It may be hard but give up the dog. It will also show your ex how committed you are to moving on.
2006-12-06 09:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by ncaachamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well first off getting mad over you dating another man is stupid. Yall are broken up am i right? I think he should be happy for you and what not. As for the dog, i dont think it's a big deal if the dog likes someone else, the dog doesnt know whats going on really. Well you shouldnt worry about what a ex thinks or does, i bet he is seeing other women too i mean its a human way. But if you ask me. Men are big babies.
2006-12-06 09:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the right to say anything he wants (First amendment, remember?) However, you have your right to tell him to go to hell. Yes, he could take you to court to try and get the dog back. You both would probably have to testify at a hearing, and the judge would decide. But c'mon... he doesn't want the dog; it's totally a control issue. Be independent, break away from the ex, and get on with your life. If he sues you - then so be it, you'll cross this bridge when you come to it. His empty threats are not worth giving up your future for. Move on.
2006-12-06 10:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take a long walk off a short pier...it's your dog...it lives with you...it's not a child...posession is nine-tenths...if he attempts to take the dog then he is stealing...deal with it in your own way...but I definitely wouldn't let the rantings of an ex take away from my future or have any bearing on who I date...
2006-12-06 09:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the dog is at your home and registered to you on the license he can not take the dog. I think he is hurt and grasping at straws in a desperate attempt to get you back.
2006-12-06 09:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have the dog in your home now. did you take the dog to the vet? you will have records of vet care with your name on it. he has no right to anything. he left the dog there when you guys broke up. i have heard of people going to court over dog visitation rights...it could come to that.
break all ties with your ex.
2006-12-07 05:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no if the dog is your friend to piss off and that you want to keep your dog. possesion is 9 tenth of the law any way. I would kick someone in the ball if they ever tried to take my dog. if things don't work out with ither one dog will make a great companion to keep your mind off of it for one plus they are great companions
2006-12-06 09:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Manie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your dog. Best advice is smile and dont tell him anymore about your dates.
2006-12-06 09:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋