I was wondering how the dumper feels vs the dumpee ...when a woman dumps a man for another relationship quickly , do you think that person feels the same as the dumpee feels ..isn't the dumper happier, and has nothing to do with the grieving stages of a relationship breakup ?
2006-12-06 09:15:12 · 6 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...from my own experience, I can say that dumping someone really sucks if they're your friend or if you had a really good connection with them in the past. The reason I dumped the guy was because I had met someone else who was (and is so far) an all around better fit for me. I felt like such a terrible person because I really broke his heart and he truly was my best friend.
So...aside from all the stupid reasons you could break up with someone, there are other reasons that make you feel REALLY badly, and maybe just as badly as the dumpee, though not in the same way.
2006-12-06 09:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am recent dumpee. Wife (dumper) appears happy with new
life although challenged with new state residency, finding job in
her field, and complications of divorce. Left me to live with new
boyfriend. I am devestated and hurting. Detect no such emotion
on her part. Is active on Q & A as if everything is okay. So, the
dumper doesn't feel anywhere near depth of pain and hurt as
dumpee. New boyfriend, new sex, new everything. Yes, dumper
is happier and and appears to have no grieving or grieving stages. When she abruptly leaves for new boyfriend, decision was
made much earlier and delay in leaving was probably for reasons
of convenient moment and boyfriend commitment.
2006-12-07 13:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jeepster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been both and being the dumper is worse.
When I was dumped, I was heartbroken and surprised, but since I knew that's what he wanted I moved on.
When I was the dumper, I second-guessed my decision for so long, always wondering how he was without me.
I grieved for both, but I grieved more as a dumper because I started before the relationship was over. I knew what I had to do, but I still hated doing it.
Neither is pleasant.
2006-12-06 09:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that is completley bull i was the dumper in my last relationship and i moved on very quickly to another guy so i wouldnt go back to the same mistake. I felt awful its been 5 1/2 years and i still feel awful. My heart is broken and i never thought my relationship would end the way it did i thought we would be together forever but things happen and people change and things dont always work out. In the end i do think both people feel the same amount of pain wether they want to admit it or not
2006-12-06 09:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the dumper is kinda sad too but the dumpee has it worse.
2006-12-06 09:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's what I want to know!
2006-12-06 09:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋