I have been on meds and stable for 2 years before I had alot of issues with depression and did not know why...now I am happy and feel great but my fam acts like that is the excuse for everything...any advice on how to get them to stop....my counclier even thinks I am doing great but nothing makes them happy...
2006-12-06 09:09:19 · 9 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your parents are right being bipolar is a big deal. Congragulations on being stable. I think you should sit down and talk to them about how they are making you feel and tell them you are doing alright now, you are compliant with your meds and a happy productive person. They are probably just scared for you and love you very much.
2006-12-06 09:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by rn_bratt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so..
Did you ever thing that you feel great now because the medication is working and it keeps you balanced and effective?
As you become more responsible for your life, get your education and work for a living, with medication you can stay balanced, and then you are just like millions of others who may be bipolar and take their medication.
I think you also are making a big deal of this. I didn't read anything about how you are working for a living, or getting your own education, or helping with chores around the home.
All I heard is how your family is against you. They are not against you. They care otherwise you would still be dealing with your problems on your own, and not making progress.
So discuss your continued slightly angry feelings with your therapist. It may be very normal to have these feelings. Some use those feelings as a reason to stop the medication and to get a way out. Keep doing well and remember to tell the therapist all that is in your head about how you want to be treated.
When the therapist thinks it is ok, you will dicuss what you may need to say to your family about how well you're doing.
GOD bless.
2006-12-06 17:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean... I have depression and take Zoloft for it now and am stable but ANY time I disagree with someone or get a little bit thoughtul (perceived as moody of course or depressed) my loved ones will always ask me "Have you taken your zoloft today?" Anytime I get a little moody (normal levels of moodiness) people are so quick to jump to the conclusion that I'm depressed or off my meds. I'm a HUMAN with human emotions. No matter how much I tell them that it doesn't change things. I think what most people suggested is worth a shot at least... it hasn't worked for me but everyone is different with different personalities so maybe it will work with your family. I would probably get them to come with you to the counselor. They are probably still stuck in the time where things were bad and you've unfortunately been pigeon-holed to that role: the bad one. Good luck... it's never an easy thing having a mental disease.
2006-12-06 17:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Des Demona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried getting my mom to go to my doctor with me so the doctor could tell her I was doing fine, and that more than likely I would always stay a little bit manic, and that most parents would prefer their children be manic to depressed. My mom didn't believe a word of it, so now anytime I do anything that she doesn't like or she thinks is not "normal," it's because I'm bi-polar. I got a new tattoo, she thinks it was because I'm manic. There's never a problem with anyone else, it's usually because I am bi-polar. Is that the kinda thing you have going on with you too?
My doctor told me she recommends that my mother actually speak with my therapist/couselor instead of her (my doctor), since they get more info and more details about how I'm feeling and what's going on with me, rather than just adjusting medications. Give it a try and see if that doesn't help a little bit. It may not, and if it doesn't, I'm sorry, because I know exactly how you feel. Good luck.
2006-12-06 17:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar is a big deal!! Some bipolars stop taking their meds when the are feeling better. Maybe your family just needs more time to feel comfortable with the NEW you. Give them time and the same patience they had to give you before medication.
2006-12-06 17:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am bipolar and faced this exact issue....the best I can tell you is it takes time, but they will understand...yes, it is a "big deal" in the sense you need to take care of yourself - but no it is not in the sense that you are stable and doing great - they are really just concerned about you...see if you can get them to go to a NAMI support group - education amkes a HUGE difference
2006-12-06 17:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do an interview on Oprah about your experinces being bi polar. Then afterwards show her the discarted syringe needles and empty bottles of vodka to prove that you are as indeed as crazy as the book you wrote as a biography. Then your parents will celebrate your courage coming out with your disorder and look forward to being part of your next book, "STILL NOT AS CRAZY AS GW BUSH".
2006-12-06 17:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by dirk diggler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were you unstable? I hate to say it but it will probably take at least that many for you family to trust that you will not begin to "swing" on them again. You were probably not aware of how stressful your disorder was on them.
Have you also considered that now that you are stable, your family now feels safe to share their hurt and frustration with you. Would the consider family counseling? That way everyone can express how they feel in safety.
2006-12-06 17:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to get them to go to a family counselor with you so that you can get help with making them understand how it effects you when they act this way.
2006-12-06 17:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋