My recent boyfriend had moved while were dating he said he had nowhere else to live this was true but after he moved i had only spoken to him maybe like twice in 2 months. He only moved 20minutes away. The couple of months he was gone i had meet someone else that sweept me off my feet we had sex one time, then when my man decided he wanted to work things out i openly told him what had happened he cosidered this cheating, but i think since we had broken up it wasn't. Maybe i shouldnt have told him,cuz now he says he cant trust me. Would you consider this cheating?
2006-12-06 09:07:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AND NO WE WERENT TOGETHER WE BOTH AGREED WE NEEDED SOME SPACE
2006-12-06 09:23:49 · update #1
OH AND IM COOL WITH THE OTHER GUY
2006-12-06 09:24:44 · update #2
No. We're only human. If a guy isn't keeping communications open with me I feel that he's not thinking about me and I'm fair game. What? Your friend is trying to guilt trip you but Why that is what you need to investigate. Stop feeling as though you did something wrong. If he says he can't trust you how is it that you trust him? How do you know that he won't pull another "Disappearing Act"? Look deeper into your situation. That isn't cheating. That's moving on because he's acting childish.
2006-12-06 09:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up with your boyfriend before he moved away, or agreed to see other people, then it's not cheating. If you were together, in a serious, exclusive relationship, it's cheating. Trust is a difficult thing, and 20 minutes away is not far away at all. How could he trust you if he had to go out of town on business or something, when he knows you might do it again. You were with someone else, it was cheating. Apologize, try to regain his trust, and don't let it happen again, or get over the relationship.
2006-12-06 17:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would all depend of you the 2 of you had actually broken up or just stopped seeing each other when he moved. It doesn't sound like cheating if you did break up and when you were talking were not acting as though you were still together.
2006-12-06 17:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact twice over two months is not a relationship. No relationsihp = not possible to cheat.
He probably can't trust you. That's just the truth, becauase in two months you found someone else and went to town with them.....Regardless, you need to always be truthful. YOU MUST NEVER LIE. It was very right for you to tell him.
To be frank, you made choices, you reap what you sowe, deal with it. Think about what you can do tomorrow to make him feel like you'll always be faithful.
Think about different ways you can start to build his trust back with you. It's going to take work and it's going to take time. He's not going to trust you tomorrow or next month, but give him time and effort and he'll come around.
If you don't want to build it back with him, if you don't want to mend the bridge, then just go find someone else to hook up with. But be upfront and honest with him. Tell him you don't want to put in the effort to make him comfortable with you.
2006-12-06 17:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where you broken up when you had sex with the other guy? If you were it wasn't cheating. My question to you though is why are you even with the first guy? I mean if the new guy "swept you off your feet" why would you go back to a guy who ignored you for two months. To me that just sounds stupid!
2006-12-06 17:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly broken up it wasn't cheating. And how do you know he didn't do the same thing. Now he will use this against u every chance he gets, you are probably better off without him. (And if he moved away and you had talked to him, were you really broken up? )
2006-12-06 17:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is for sure cheating if you two were still together. But if you were seriously broke up then no its not cheating. I think that if you two were just seperated but still had feelings for eachother it also could be considered cheating. Hope it works out how you want it to!! Good Luck!
2006-12-06 17:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by ragdoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not cheating if you are broken up. If he moved 20 mins away and couldn't find time to talk to you more than twice in two months, then you were definitely broken up.
Good Luck
2006-12-06 17:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself what he thought of your relationship during this time. Did he consider it to be a break-up or just a postponement? If you both knew this was a breakup then no you did not cheat on him. However even if he thought you were still is girl then yes you did.
2006-12-06 17:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were broken up, then no it isn't cheating.
But, what does it say about your feelings for your boyfriend, if you can break up, and have sex with someone else so soon?
2006-12-06 17:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋