3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting pretty serious. My girlfriend was very upset, but I insisted and we didnt see each other for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but after a few weeks she finaly took me back.We are happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not.I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work, she says for about 3 weeks she had regular sex .The past few days I have been trying to hold in my jealousy.I know it is my fault and I gave her the freedom, but how do I get rid of my rage without showing it to my girlfriend?I have been asking her details of what happened and we have talked, and i feel i need to know altho its hard. i let her know it is ok to talk about enjoying the sex. am i ok?
2006-12-06 08:55:51 · 7 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) you're pretty normal, not too bright but normal.
2) NO!!!! YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY RIGHT TO ASK HER ABOUT HER LIFE DURING TIME-OUT!!!!
- SINCE YOU DID AND SHE WAS HONEST ENOUGH TO TELL YOU... SPEAKS WELL OF HER... YOU MUST FIND A WAY TO LIVE WITH IT!!!!!
3) What did you think she would do????
4) O.K. maybe you don't know what taking a break means..
- Taking a break means "WE ARE SINGLE" until if and when we decide to get back together... So you were expecting what... for her to wait around until you decided whatever????.. It was your idea remember..
- I'm really glad she didn't... She got on with her life just as she should have...
- Considering the emotional turmoil you caused her - If she is coming back now you should consider yourself very lucky indeed...
- Sorry but YOU ASKED FOR IT!!!
2006-12-06 09:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by gjm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have the right, you asked for the break, you need to accept that you gave her permission to have a break also. She did the best to keep on going with her life and so did you. Move forward and don't look at what happened during the break or you'll have another permanent breaking coming soon.
2006-12-06 17:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that you asked the question........ou would have never know until you asked... now you are lefted with your fellings which is rage........ Maybe she has told you something that she know will hurt you as much as you hurt her.....AND YOU ARE FEELING THE PAIN.....Now all you can do is build on the relationship that you have now. Don't drell on something that you can't change....!!!
Start over and make sure that you will cause yourself to feel this way again......
2006-12-06 17:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lordes D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply yes but she must have been upset while you broke up and you have to decide if you really want to know. I hopw it works out. Decide what you want and have a serious talk with her. It almost appears like she wants something else. Good Luck.
2006-12-06 16:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the chance you took.................
She seemed to have wasted no time finding someone new to toss her a good d*cking!!!
Dude, if you cannot handle what happened, this WILL eat you alive, and will eventually riun your relationship, trust me!!!
Even though she moved along pretty quickly, she did nothing wrong, IMO!
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-12-06 17:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do . i asked my Girlfriend why when she did that to me and it was fine with her .
if you are still together tell her you want to know so that you don't do it again
2006-12-06 16:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chris and Shahana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope... you have no right at all.
2006-12-06 16:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋