We have lived together for 3 years. We have plenty of "Stuff." We think a nice honeymoon is a great gift that we otherwise would not be able to enjoy.
2006-12-06 08:53:32 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Actually there is a such thing as a honeymoon registry. Instead of registering for the typical stuff, you can register for a honeymoon. I heard about this a while back and I think its a great idea.
You can register for everything from flights to dinners. Great idea.
Another thing we have always done at our family weddings are things such as auctioning off the brides shoe for money towards the honeymoon. Paying to dance with the bride. There are lots of ways of collecting money for your honeymoon without being tacky about it.
Best of luck!!
2006-12-06 08:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by obsolete_allurement 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ooooh. Sorry. Whoops and oopsy, Daisy -- big mistake coming!
First off, understand that gifts are NEVER mandatory and it's ALWAYS tacky to ask your guests for money. The idea is that their being at your wedding, sharing your joy, IS the gift, and if they also feel like giving you a little something to mark the occasion, my goodness, how unexpected and wonderful!
Sure, a nice honeymoon would be a great gift. So would a limo, but you wouldn't ask your guests to foot the bill for a limo, would you (please, tell me you wouldn't)? That said, you can always tell someone close to you, like moms and dads, in a SUBTLE way, that you really wish you could take a romantic honeymoon trip, but you just can't afford it. That way, IF anyone asks them what you want, they can always hint that it would be great if you guys could go on a honeymoon trip...
And if you receive a rice cooker instead, you smile and thank the giver graciously and write a nice thank you note. There just isn't a non-tacky way to specify what you want someone else to give you, outside of a business contract, which is very unromantic.
2006-12-06 09:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are in some "high society" circles (and you buy into that sort of thing) I think everyone would completely understand. And if they don't like it, they will give you a regular gift instead. I think the major problem with weddings is that everyone gives too much of the decision making away to those attending the wedding. Remember, this day is about you two and the guests have been honored with an invite to witness your special day...it’s about you, not them. I know it's hard to do something you think might be perceived as unusual, but if it’s really what you want, go for it. Most guests are just looking for guidance anyway. If you don't think you can live with asking that of everyone, then do a regular registry, just make sure you can return everything for cash and voila! Instant honeymoon funds.
NOTE: There are websites that let you register for honeymoon items like money toward the plane tickets and fun excursions or meals; they really can help because you can use them like any other registry.
Good luck and congrats!
PS I don’t think it’s so unusual anymore to register for honeymoon items. My friends just recently did and it made it very simple for all the guests. No gift to lug to the wedding or extra payments for shipping. It was great!
here's the service they used: http://www.thebigday.com/
2006-12-06 09:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just can't do this, or ask for money in any way. It is rude, crude and tacky. It is not the "fault" of your guests that you have all the things you need. If you really don't want any gifts, say so on the invitation nicely, but don't add that cash would be a good option. If you can't afford a honeymoon, so be it.
2006-12-06 10:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are concerned about being remembered as a polite wedding couple, you should not ask for this type of gift. It is rude to make a request like that. It is also rude to have a honeymoon registry, any type of registry for money, and rude to register for gift cards.
If you do not need more "stuff" then simply don't register for anything. Accept whatever people decide on their own to give you as gifts-- be it money or household items. It's the givers' decision, not yours, and it's rude for couples to broadcast their wishes or make any requests for honeymoons or money.
2006-12-06 17:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to to do this is to set up an online registery where people can contribute towards your honeymoon. Try http://www.redparrottravel.com/HoneymoonRegistery.html
Also, tell your wedding party and parents thet you're hoping for money so they can pass it on. DO NOT put any registery info on anything you send your guests, it implies that the gift is more important than the guests. If you get asked directly, you can always say "We would really like to take a nice honeymoon so anything to help with that would be nice" this opens the door for things like luggage, money, etc
2006-12-06 10:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by DanielleNichole 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Asking for money is a huge NO, NO...it is in poor taste and should not be done. If you are your fiance have been living together for a number of years, then you family is already aware that you both have everything...they will most likely be giving you money, if anything. Just remember, too, though that gifts are not a requirement from any guests and you might not get anything from a few people.
2006-12-06 10:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They shouldn't be. It's not uncommon nowadays for the bride and groom to setup a 'fund' to receive donations for a large expense. In fact some new couples set up a fund for guests to contribute to the purchase of a first home.
There is a certain etiquette to the request though. Weddingchannel.com and TheKnot.com are good starting points for tips on how to approach this without offending guests.
But really - the guests should have no problem contributing to the honeymoon. In fact, it will probably make the art of giving that much easier - no hustle an bustle with trying to locate items on a bridal registry.
Congrats and have a happy wedding
2006-12-06 08:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That depends on the way your guests are or how much they know you. In my country Uruguay, It is more common that travel agencies as well as other big stores (those where you can find the much staff you mean you already have) organize a kind of "honemoon deposit" so guest instead of giving you a gift, just go there and deposit the amount of money they want. Their names also are written in a list that is given to you later (meaning they were the ones who "give" you $ 500 for example). Then the happy couple, as you will be, can go to that travel agency or big store and buy whatever they want with the money that was collected there.
I do not know how that works in US, but I consider It could be a fantastic option not only for the couple (they can buy what tey really need or want) but also for the guest (they avoid problems as: "what can I give them as a present?" "will they really like this or that?")
2006-12-06 09:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by monvana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it would be tacky if you flat out said to your guests 'no, don't bring gifts, give us money' type of a thing...instead have your wedding party, parents, close friends pass the word along that instead of gift you would prefer money for a honeymoon
2006-12-06 11:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋