i recently moved far away from my girlfriend and we dont see eachother very much,when we do its the best thing in the world,its really stressful on the both of us and drives me crazy.this is not permanent just untill i get on my feet here.iam starting stupid arguements over the dumbest things that push her further and further away from me.as much as i hate fighting with her i seem to keep causing these things.i know i can be extremely jealous and or insecure at times witch as alot to do with her cheating on me a year ago,we broke up over that,we have been backtogether for a little over a moth after being separated and rarely talking for 10 months.she told me that she thinks that it might* have been a bad idea getting back together when we cant see eachother when ever we want,she doesnt want to break up(right now)the thing,its not forever maybe a month,month and a half longer.im so in love with her,i want to marrie this girl and will do anything to make this relationship work.
comments?
2006-12-06 08:53:00 · 6 answers · asked by lost and found 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well obviously you are going to have some trust issues with her because you live so far away from her and she cheated on you. Try trusting her a little bit more everyday. If you can't do that you have to break up with her.
2006-12-06 08:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by sanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the distance is what is messing you guys up...Why can't she move with you?...If she cheated previously and is telling you that it might be a bad idea that you guys got back together, I think she doesn't know how to tell you she has moved on...
Do she comes to see you?...If you're arguing alot due to the stupidest things then I think you should let it go and when you come back, if she's still available, then get back with her, but I doubt if she will still be there...
I know that you love her, but I am not sure how she feels about you.....You should know how she feels because, if two people who are away from each other and they get together and its great but it ends up in fights...The feelings you have may be more of a lust for sex than really loving someone who you can't get along with....
I really think you need to rethink this because, you love her, but does she love you?Ask yourself what she does for you?How she treats you?Is this a give and take relationship or are you the one that just keep on giving?
Do some soul searching and think about how it would be if you two were in the same place if you can really enjoy her but by the time you leave, you two are arguing?Ask yourself, if this is fine or due to the tension of you guys living in different places..
Good Luck
2006-12-06 09:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that boat not too long ago. He says to me let it go, let things happen as they do and if it doesn't turn out the way you want it to it wasn't supposed to be you can't force it. You can tell her you love her and you;d hate to lose her but you need to do whats best for both of you. Tell her is she thinks this is frustrating and doesn't want to try to stick it out than you'd rather her leave and be happy than stay and be miserable and then start cheating on you again. Stop picking fights, i know it's hard but bite your tongue when you want to say something you know will start a fight.
2006-12-06 09:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she will't deal with you taking section in round with different women persons on-line, possibly she isn't as staggering as you earlier concept. imagine that, telling your spouse! She has some nerve. As for doing some thing she'll experience sorry about, i.e. telling your spouse, only reassure your spouse as continuously that she has not some thing to rigidity about. i'm confident she'll believe you as continuously. interior the interim, once you're ever searching to boost your horizons so a techniques as on-line relationships bypass... I by no skill get jealous. Ever.
2016-11-30 05:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try inviting her for the weekend there with you.
loving a person IS trusting them so dont accuse her because of the current situation. a month can be a long time...can you send for her now?
2006-12-06 08:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is trying to prepare you for a total breakup
2006-12-06 09:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋