been depressed?

Question

22 year old son passed away a year ago. i have been going thru a depression for about 1 month now. not debilitating, but been down. is this part of the 'stages', maybe its the holidays?

Answer 1

It's part of the grieving process and the upcoming holidays. I, too, lost a son and found that grieving is like waves in the ocean. Sometimes they're calm, sometimes small ones and sometimes ones that throw you onto the beach. I try to remember how my son would want me to feel and this makes me try harder.

Answer 2

First, I'm very sorry for your loss. Second, the holidays are probably making you a bit worse than you might normally be. It's only been a year, and don't feel bad about being depressed still! Have you sought any kind of grief counseling? I think you should at least consider it. Sometimes it's nice to just vent to people you don't know. Good luck.

Answer 3

It is never easy to lose a family member. Particularly one of the children.. Finding a way to fill in the empty space is the larges problem to face. I have found spending time going over some of the pleasant memories and sharing them with others, to be a big help. Some of them will even bring a smile to your lips.. Some even a bit of laughter. Sharing his life through your memories, is not only beneficial for you but does as well for others. Anyone who knew him.

I had to go through a similar time in my life.. my wife died when my son was 12 years old.. To this day I frequently mention her, just to refresh his memory of her and perhaps add some thing he doesn't remember at all. Time will allow the deeper feeling to become filled with your sons memories... the good ones.. The more negative ones will gradually fade into nothingness.

Answer 4

This is a very normal part of grief and the "stages" of grief. Loss
is especially hard around the holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. I've been through alot of loss. Most recently my dad died from suicide 8 months ago. My heart goes out to you.
Don't be afraid to talk to a professional counselor if you need to.

Answer 5

I sorta know how you feel. I haven't lost a child but in the past 4 years I've lost both great grandparents and 2 great aunts. The holidays are always a harder time not having them here. You may want to consider going to a Psychiatrist and maybe getting some medication to help you. :c) Keep your chin up!

Answer 6

Sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sure you're still grieving. Mixed with the upcoming holidays, I would say it's normal. Besides, he was/is your son. I couldn't imagine.

If you find yourself in the same place in like 4-6 months you might want to consider counseling. Right now I would try to enjoy the memories of him and get through this season.

You'll be in my prayers


you too Freddie, jerk.

Answer 7

first of all, i am sorry for your loss. your grieving is just beginning, a year is not long to be done grieving. I'm sure the holidays have something to do with it but you need to go on for the rest of the family involved. you like all normal people grieve for the rest of their lives in one way or another.
god bless.

Answer 8

luvie, you have every right to be depressed and sad. i am so sorry for your loss. and the holidays always remind us of our loved-ones. you might need to have a short-term anti-depressant...cymbalta is really good. very few side-effects, helps with sleep too. don't be afraid to talk to your doctor about having some meds to get you through. very best of luck to you...i'll have you in my thoughts.

**freddie, i don't know what your agenda is in making the statements you did, but you are a such an insensitive jerk!!! i have a nice steel-toed boot for your backside.

Answer 9

its definatly the holidays. your mind needs to get used to the fact that you dont have your son anymore for family time and/or giving presents, etc.

hope you feel better. losing a child is the worst.
happy holidays, god bless you.

Answer 10

It's not something anybody could possibly get over easily. Not a year - not a lifetime. I am so sorry for your loss.