I been seeing this guy on & off for a couple of months. He has full custody of his child & is hard to start a relationship due to his custody situation. Biological mother is very unreliable.
He calls once a week or not at all. This is the part , I can not deal with. I enjoy being around him & vice versa. I really like this guy, however according to him rasing his son(who is 5) & his job are is top priorities. That I must learn to trust him. This all new to me . ..What should I do? friends tell me he uses that as an excuse. Single dads..is this true? Full custody & a stressful job leaves no room for dating? When he calls is it just for a booty call or is he really that busy?
2006-12-06 08:39:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anannie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably is busy, full-time custody is alot of work, combined with a stressfull job, even more difficult. The important question is whether or not you will be able to deal with this. Raising children is a huge responsibility, doing it on your own is even harder. He has set his priorities. Seeing as they relate to the stability of a child, quite honorable in my opinion. However, communication is key in any relationship and since it seems to be a problem here, it may be what you should work on. It seems you are being understanding of the situation so, the time for him to understand your point of view might be overdue. You can't be left in the dark forever. If he really cares for you, he will be willing to communicate better and understand your side of things.
2006-12-06 09:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by lifeizgud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a single parent is the hardest thing to do but also the most rewarding, his priorities are right on!! The child and his job should come first, Patients is the only thing that I can tell you to do, maybe telling him that you feel like only a booty call might help him to understand you better and also open up. Starting a relationship is also alot of work, its time consuming, and emotionally consuming as well, he might not be ready for that, He's got alot on his plate as it is. Being a single parent myself I barely had time to breath, my children needed me more than I need a relationship, by having a relationship it took away from them, I had a responsibility to those children first .
2006-12-06 16:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to find out? Next time he calls for you to get together, go ahead and see him, but keep your booty to yourself. DATE him, don't have sex with him. If he's a good father, his child should come before anyone and anything else. If he's the sole provider for his chld, then that should have priority as well. The trick is to find out if you are important to him as well. If all he's interested in is the sex, well, he can get that on any street corner, and you deserve better. Give him a chance though, because he's a man who's concerned for his child and his job, and so has things as they should be.
2006-12-06 16:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great for dad.his schedule and son should be is first priorities.if he wants a booty call from you that's your fault.raising a child alone is very hard work,,i know I'm raising 2 alone.you need to understand his child was in the picture way before you were.
once he get a routine down then I'm sure he'll find time for a relationship wheat her it's with you or someone else.we go Thur life with all kind of disappointments,but our top job are family first.you need to realize how difficult it is for him.just be patience and if he wants you like you want him then it will happen.single mom are the same way.
2006-12-06 16:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single dad with kids. It is very difficult dating because of this. Be patient with him. If he is actually fitting you into his schedule anywhere he likes you. Try to understand that to meet his obligation to his son he has to able to feed him, and provide a decent place to raise him, etc, - that is why he lists his child and job as his top priorities. That doesn't mean that you are not important to him.
2006-12-06 16:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is honest advise from someone who has put wives thru this crap, no booty callin, just the ex bull and kids.. Go have a real good cry, and pass. Life is real short and there is enough bull to deal with as it is. Sorry, but best wishes
2006-12-06 16:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Richard J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋