My man is recently divorced (1 year) and his parents live in Denmark. He has met my family and spoken to my dad about our future, so I think the right thing would be that I send a card or a letter to them (the future in-laws) talking about how great their son is or something... I don´t wanna ask him as I want to surprise him with the letter or card. What do you think?
2006-12-06 08:30:25 · 10 answers · asked by Patricia J 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That´s a good point SteviJan. Some cultures might find something like that too forward. I think it will be better to write the letter, and ask my man what he thinks before sending it. Thanks to all!
2006-12-06 09:10:41 · update #1
I wouldn't suggest a surprise because they sometimes backfire. After discussing it with your boyfriend, if he is agreeable, I would keep it to a letter of introduction along the lines of: I would like to introduce myself since I am dating your son. I hope we will have an opportunity to meet at some point in the future. Blah, blah, blah. I would not gush too much about how wonderful their son is because it might come across insincere. Besides, discussing personal issues in some cultures is not welcomed. If, for example, your boyfriend's parents were Japanese, they might be embarassed by your forwardness since Japanese are rather private compared to us brash Americans.
2006-12-06 08:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by stevijan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a good way to do something like this would be a Christmas card (if they celebrate) from the both of you with a short introduction of yourself with a little of what you wanted to say. Maybe something like "I can't wait to meet the people responsible for raising such an amazing man"
2006-12-06 18:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write the letter. SHOW it to your man BEFORE you mail it to his parents. There could be something there you don't know or he doesn't want you to know.
This way he can see your good intentions and you showed respect for him by showing him before you actually mailed it.
2006-12-06 16:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that writing to them would be very appropriate, and your man would most likely think a lot of you for taking the initiative to contact his family. They would probably be surprised as well. I am of course assuming that he has told them about you. Good luck.
2006-12-06 16:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by Doug R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"the future in laws" does that mean that you are engaged? I guess either way it would be a nice gesture just to show them that you are interested in getting to know them as they are the parents of the man you love. Good luck.
2006-12-06 16:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by laurel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why you prefer a letter over a phone call.
2006-12-06 16:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea - just say what a great job they did raising him and how you can't wait to meet them, etc. Very nice idea though.
2006-12-06 16:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead, it will make you happy and the future in-laws too.
2006-12-06 16:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nope. he didn't contact your parents without you, did he?
you introduced him, right? i would not contact his parents
behind his back if i were you. talk to him about this first
and see what he thinks is appropriate.
2006-12-06 16:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
of course u should
2006-12-06 16:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋