One night i was just at a party,with no reason to think it would be different from the rest.i spotted a good looking guy,as i entered,and later on as i glanced about,our eyes met.At that moment i felt like someone had knocked all the air out of me,i felt in shock,but i couldnt stop staring.And he bared the same expression.i have no idea what it was...i felt instantly besotted,and we stood and looked into eachothers eyes before even speaking.He's a really shy guy but we did get talking.However,i had a bf by then.Even though my bf means the world to me i cant get him out of my head a year on.And he still gives me that 'look' every day.Its almost a year to the day we met and i vowed i would tell him how i felt.I was fine until now,when the emotion has been getting to me,although he is a friend to me now.Why are we still giving eachother the same look a year on?Help me stop!
2006-12-06 08:28:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think ur in love....gurl....i think u should follow ur heart, it will tell u wut to do
2006-12-06 08:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ree Ree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you really just need to check your perspective out...
How long have you been with your current guy?
How much of the excitement of being with him at first was just the excitement of being with a new person or "being where you're not supposed to be"?
How much of the "good looking guy" thing is actually going to matter IE does the guy you're with really not satisfy you that way or is it just the surprise factor of being in newer territory?
I've been with my girlfriend now for over a year and get similar situations maybe once a month. But I'm old enough (26) and have seen and looked back at enough flings to know what makes a boring relationship different than simply realizing that with most dates you know well you know their "dirty underwear" and maintenance while with new ones you usually just see their blissful sides (the movie "Hi Fidelity" says a lot about this subject, by the way).
Be very very careful. If you look over and find mostly you are very very satisfied with your b/f you are likely playing mind games with yourself (and can't be expected not to play mind-games and hurt others as long as you keep this up). It doesn't make you a better lover or a stronger woman to move onto new territory to prove you can do it, it just shows insecurity. Only leave if you're not satisfied AND you've told your current b/f what's missing and he hasn't made any effort to challenge those weaknesses.
Best luck.
2006-12-06 16:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not for sure why all I can say is wow you probably are still thinking of him because your eyes met and you didn't look away so in a way it seems like you guys are meant for each other but if you're still in love with your boyfriend then forget the other guy but otherwise is it fair to your boyfriend that you may like a different guy? just think about that and you'll know exactly what to do.
2006-12-06 16:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is ur mind telling u that u want to get out of the relationship you are in now. maybe u need a break. i just hope that if u do take this break and go out with the new guy, that he will be worth it.
2006-12-06 16:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Gyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean it in a rude way, but maybe you have obsessive compulsive disorder. My friend has it and has to take a drug for it because he kept getting fixated on different women and got a restraining order put on him.
2006-12-06 16:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be thats your soul mate
2006-12-06 16:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Angel06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart does what it wants to.
2006-12-06 16:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by FeeLnUFeeLnMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its love
2006-12-06 16:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by Wasabi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the stereotype "love at first sight."
Go for it!
2006-12-06 16:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Luna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are both drunk
maybe you are both lonely
I was always told its ok to look.
Just avoid any rude comments.
2006-12-06 16:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you're unsure of what to do, I don't think you should stay with your current boyfriend. it's not fair to him.
2006-12-06 16:31:19 · answer #11 · answered by bosox.girl23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋