Ladies be honest here okay??

Question

Sometimes i think men like to just be alone, is something wrong with this? Is it me, or do women get insecure or "wonder" when their guy just want to chill by himself, maybe watch a little football, take a drive, get a coffee, or whatever it may be. I think men like a secure woman, am i wrong? So I guess the question is, do you give your man "down time" to do his own thing? If not, don't ya gotta second guess his manhood if he let's ya step all over him??
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Answer 1

Of course! You have to give them time to do their thing, then they are happy and want to be around you---they'll usually do their own thing anyway. Mine usually goes to the movies at least once a week with a buddy of his, rides a dirt bike every other Saturday, and goes to go to Bike Night (motorcycles) every other Wednesday night. He is home every night, takes me out to dinner & lunch often during the week, is a very neat person, and is not lazy. Maybe he's just a GREAT GUY and I'm LUCKY!

I really don't "give" him down time. He'll take it whether I want him to or not. I just don't give him Hell over it. (well, maybe once in a while I get a little selfish). ;-)

The book "Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus" gives an excellent explanation of the "cave" theory and it is so true. You'll find the same thing with women who are very independent and have a high degree of self-confidence. They aren't afraid to do things on their own and be alone because they really like who they are. I find that people like this usually have tons of friends too!

Answer 2

It depends on the man. If he's trustworthy then there shouldn't be any problem with someone just wanting some alone time. Hell, women want it too. But if a man hasn't done anything to gain the woman's trust, she has no reason to believe that this "alone time" isn't code for "I just don't want to be with you." In the end, I think that the communication is the best thing. As long as a man tells a woman that he wants to be alone (to watch TV or just veg out) then it should be OK. It's when it becomes cryptic and weird that women feel insecure.

Answer 3

You are RIGHT. Being a woman myself. I have watched many woman complain and ask why they have to do this and why are you doing this. There should be a 50/50 street. If two people are together to be couples....they are still individuals. Meaning each person has things that the other one might not like. Take shopping....not many men enjoy going out with the "girls" and getting some outfits. I completely agree with you. Even tho being a woman myself I have often asked other woman why do you harp so much. If he is the one that lays by you every night or the one that is yours and you are secure with it.....why bug him. He has his interests too. Of course couples are going to argue. That's human nature. But if a guy just wants his lady to do everything for him....that is wrong. But time alone...everyone needs that for themselves. :)

Answer 4

Well I have to admit that I don't give him his "alone" time as much as I should. But I do know that all men as do women need their own time - especially men to retreat to their caves as it says in the book "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus". I think every person should have their alone time and the other person should be respectful of that - no matter how hard it is. And I agree a man wants his woman to be secure and independant. A clingy woman is never a good woman!

Answer 5

Everybody -- men and women both -- need a little alone time to recharge the batteries and feel refreshed. Sometimes it's best when engaging in a hobby; my wife's best friend loves to spend time alone in her garden, working on the organization, moving plants for different times of the year, and of course constantly removing weeds, "volunteer" plants, and other things that keep her garden from looking like the showpiece it really is.

Sometimes, I just like being alone. My job situation is wonderful -- I work from home, 660 miles from our main office, which means that most of the time I'm in close proximity to my family. It's great, because I get to be there when the kids get home from school, I get to participate in the little joys and sorrows of their day, I get to have lunch with my wife often -- but it also means I have almost no time to myself during the average week. So for me, every few months I have to visit the main office. Usually, I drive -- in large part because the ten hours I spend alone in my car are very, very restorative to my sanity and mental "cleanliness."

In short... I love togetherness, but I need the feeling of being alone, not answerable to anyone else for a while, either to do something I enjoy, or sometimes, to do nothing at all.

Answer 6

No, it's not wrong for a man to want to be alone. A lot of women are insecure with their men for an obvious reason. One being that they cheated r have been cheated on by a previous boyfriend. But if they have someone who hasn't given them reason to doubt them, then women shouldd't be so insecure. We are slightly different from men. What I know, women, love to get advise or comfort from anyone close to them, like their friends, family. And when they are in a bad mood, don't like to be alone. To where as men, when they need to talk, they don't turn to their boys, they ask their woman for advise, especially married men. But men do need to be alone, they don't respond to too many answers at one time, like we do.



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Answer 7

I do give him alone time to work on his music, but I do get a bit jealous when the favor is not returned. We have small children and I stay at home with them. We have no family or babysitters around, so I get very little time for me. This does cause tension. Sometimes men and women just need to be left alone. It isn't always about security. If they don't have alone time they don't want you to have it either. I know it sounds childish, but unfortunately it is true,

Answer 8

Women get insecure because they've been hurt before. But yes, a man needs his own down time of guy time. Women need to understand that. I don't mind my man hanging out with his buddies or going fishing and hunting, because he allows me to do my thing when I want it. Men, maybe if you work to make sure your woman is secure, knows you love and desire her, give her enough attention, she won't fuss when you wanna hang with the boys.
My first marriage was a disaster. Hubby never paid me any attention or made me feel like a woman (found out later he is gay) but the lack of attention made me jealous, insecure and made his life hell, because I was always suspicious., Turns out I was right in a way - he WAS cheating, but not with other women, as I thought!
This time around my husband gives me all I want and more - and he has more "freedom" than any of his pals ....because I trust and love him.

Answer 9

you are So right... Men should have down time just like woman... They need some Me time too... I believe that is what keeps a man sane. You have to allow him to go hang out with the fellows. That way he has a chance to miss you...You have to give him that sports time to feel like a man. If you take his manhood away from him then what does he have left?

Answer 10

OH I certainly understand about time alone. My husband and I respect and trust one another. We each take the time we need for ourselves. He likes to watch a game on TV on Sundays, so the kids and I usually use that time to go grocery shopping or other things of that nature while he has the day to watch the game. Occasionally he has the guys over for poker night and I go out with the girls. We both understand one another and we have developed our own set of rules as far as hanging out with friends go. If either one of us feels uncomfortable with the situation or we need the other one at that time.......then we put off our fun time to be with each other. I am a good wife so I have only ruined his fun time once.