Okay....im almost in high school and never had a boyfriend. Pathetic right....dating isnt really that important at my school but still i see people hooking up all the time.Why cant it be me for once. I know that im not the hottist girl in school but im not that bad...I dont think. I have redish hair, and im about 5'4. Im not fat but im not miss skinny mini eather. I mean I only wear a size 4 jeans.Thats not fat is it? Well i could really use ur advice, thanks!
2006-12-06 07:48:28 · 51 answers · asked by annastar92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are thin. honey, you have lots of time. be patient. don't rush anything. when the time is right, you'll know. school is more important than a boy!!
2006-12-06 07:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you worry to much. Calm down girl. Your get plenty of boys that will want you. I mean your not even in high school yet right. So give a little more time. And give your self a little more credit then that. Besides boyfriends are nothing but trouble any way. Well some are. You will have some that you are really crazy about. Some that you think that you even love. But take it from me you are still very young and have the rest of your life a head of you. So when you do get a boyfriend don't settle down with the first one that comes along. There will be plenty to pick from trust me. Oh and no size four is not fat I'm in size three and I'm 5'4. But I am also getting married and have already started my life and future. If I could I would go back and take my time threw high school and all of the boys. There's no need to rush it.
2006-12-06 07:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in middle school (6-8th grade) I had two boyfriends, neither relationship lasted longer than a week. The reason I wanted a boyfriend is b/c my best friend had one. Also, I felt the pressure to have a boyfriend b/c all the other girls in school had one. Do you want a boyfriend b/c everyone has one? If you do, I wouldnt worry about having a boyfriend right now. Find out who you are first. You are young and when you get into highschool you will have plenty of time to date. Dont be in a rush. Slow down. And no a size 4 is not fat. You are pretty skinny sista.
2006-12-06 07:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by cutelil_bubble21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...Definitely not pathetic. Don't let "everyone else" dictate what you "should" be doing. No matter what...you are already doing what's best for YOU.
Here's a little something that I've learned...The best way to find someone is DON'T look. There's a "vibe" that you give off when you are looking. It's kind of a "desparate" vibe. Not many are attracted to that. If you can show that you are NOT desparate, that confidence is very attractive.
5'4" and #4 jeans is just right for you. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Attitude is MUCH more important that weight. Besides, weight should only be an issue for health reasons.
Don't be in a hurry, you have plenty of time to hook up with the boys.
2006-12-06 07:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young girlz like yourself end up with an eating disorder and then you die because you feel that you aren't pretty enough or thin enough or worthy enough of a guys love. Well, you shouldn't be worried about a boyfriend at your age anyway. You should focus on your school work and just be happy that you don't have bills or children to deal with or any of the other problems that adults have to face. Just be a kid and stop trying to grow up so fast trust me it will come in due time and then you will wish you were a kid again but then it will be too late. Enjoy your childhood cause you only get one so stop worrying whether you have a boyfriend or not or if something is wrong with you because God made you in HIS image and God is Great, Fantastic, Amazing, Awesome, Mighty, and Incredible so don't worry about what you don't have and focus on what you do and thats the Love of Jesus.
2006-12-06 07:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you sweetie, you are just at an uncomfortable age and most boys your age don't know what they are looking for in a girl. And a size 4 is definitely not fat! Give it time, you will grow into a beautful young woman and you won't even remember when you couldn't find a date or boyfriend. Try to enjoy being young, it goes by really quick! Good luck!
2006-12-06 07:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by xquis81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, honey, you're ALMOST in high school and never had a boyfriend and you wonder what is wrong with YOU? NOTHING is wrong with YOU. what is wrong is those who have or have had boyfriends at your age. give yourself a break and enjoy life without the burden of having a boyfriend. you'll find that the best relationships in life and those that really last are more important than the pre high school and high school boyfriends. invest your time in having some really great girlfriends that will encourage you and be there for you for much longer than some guy who wants to add a notch on his belt. save the serious relationship dating for when you are serious about committing for longer than a few weeks or months. you'll be glad you did. and the guy you wind up with will be glad you did too.
2006-12-06 07:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Goddess T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have a boyfriend until I was a junior in high school, then ended up with a guy who was a total waste of time, just because I wanted a boyfriend.
Don't worry...your time will come. I was very gawky in high school (really!)....now I'm 36 and get asked out somewhat often....even by younger guys in their 20s, though I like older guys.
Anyway, don't worry about it. You're still young. Work on the inside of yourself..that's what makes a guy stick around when you get old(er). And you don't sound fat...but it doesn't hurt to exercise and work on your body so your confidence is there.
People hook up a lot in high school because it's all about status....but don't let it get to you. Keep your heart all in one piece for a guy who deserves you.
Those same girls you see hooked up with a guy may be the ones who bawl their eyes out in the bathroom when they break up.
2006-12-06 07:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by kannajo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys in Jr. High and High Schol aren't worth dating exclusively. I should know, I was one once. Go out and hang out with the guys, maybe even go on a few dates, get used to the male gender, but don't go exclusive with a guy until you're 20 or 21, and then only after you're pretty sure it might develop into something serious. People try to get into exclusive dating way too early these days.
2006-12-06 07:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Size 4 isn't fat in the least!!
I wouldn't stress out about not having a boyfriend. I would just enjoy the high school experiance and let happen what may.
I'm sure the minute you get comfortable with yourself, you will have that confidence that guys fall for almost instantly.
Wait and see what happens!
Good Luck!
2006-12-06 07:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by rwriterjm 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, size 4 is skinny! But not too thin. Definitely not fat! Maybe it's your shy, self-critical personality preventing guys from noticing how hot you are. Fix up yourself, hold your head high and try to be more open and approachable. Easier said than done, but if you can work on your confidence, your beauty will shine through.
At this age, most guys are into who's easiest. As you get older, or meet mature guys, there will be plenty who want to date you because of your personality as well as how you look.
2006-12-06 07:53:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋