Ok, my dog is a horrible dog! Well she's not but she destroys everything when we are out, we have had her for 2 years and if anything she is getting worse, today we came home and she has ripped my carpet in two....straight down the middle! half of it is shredded to pieces the other half is ok (as if that really matters!) anyway bofriend has had enough, he said I have 2 weeks to find the dog a new home or he is leaving, the problem I have is my kids love this mutt and are gutted she has to go. I have to choose whether to break my kids heart and get rid of the dog or loose my boyfriend...what would you do????
by the way before anyone says anything i know she does it because of seperation anxiety, we have tried everything from putting her in a cage (she tips it over) tying her up (she destroyed everything within her reach and chewed a little hole in the wall ...she was muzzled aswell!) and left her outside but she digs under the fence and runs round in the road!
2006-12-06 07:46:56 · 59 answers · asked by xoclairexo 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
You cant just abandon the dog! She won't understand! Youhave to find a good trainer and go to classes, they arent expensive. Im sure the problem can be fixed.
And tell your boyf to have a heart! If he issues you with ultimatums he cant care about you that much, sorry.
2006-12-06 07:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by lovethesun 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow you are in quite the situation...
Maybe you can come up with a compramise. If the dog seeks help (like training) and show improvement then the dog stays. Also, sometimes dogs are destructive in the house becasue they are not being exercised enough. Take a look at how often the dog gets to run around and what type of dog it is becasue some require more exercise than others.
Also, how long have you and your boyfriend been together? Are you guys very serious? If he's relativly a new boyfriend I'd say get rid of him and keep the dog. If you guys are very serious and have built a solid relationship you think will last...then I HATE to say it, but see if you can find the dog a GOOD home where it will be taken care of. Your kids will be sad but maybe down the line you can get another dog (because obviously all aren't destructive).
2006-12-06 07:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your boyfriend loves you-he won't leave.
He has no right to make you choose between him and the dog. It's like making you choose between him and the kids. Who would you choose? Besides, the dog will not understand why you gave her away. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like pets?
I think you have a porblem with your dog-and it could be that a)the dog is really spoilt, and has always got away with everything, or b)the dog does not get enough attention. Pets are like children, only a little bit worse. Children can answer back and you understand each other, where is with pets it's different. They may want something, but they can't tell you in the language that us humans understand. But one thing's for sure- your dog wants to achieve something by being naughty, and you should take her to the vet, and there they will be able to give you advise. also, as someone already answered you, it's good to find a trainer, who will be able to retrain the dog, and give you advice.
In any case- the dog is like one of your kids. I have a cat, who I love to pieces (i don't have kids). But If my boyfriend made me choose- I would choose the cat, because as far I'm concerned, if he loves me- he will love my klids and my pets. Especially because when you love someone- you don't want to hurt them.
I think your boyfriend is just cruel, and incensitive.
Ditch the boyfriend and get a good trainer for your dog. yes- it's not cheap, but it will save you more cash in the long run, as you will not have to buy new furniture every week.
So, Keep the dog!!!
2006-12-10 01:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by maria s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats exactly why shes doing it. She needs more attention from you. Shes jelous. If you really want to know what I think, I think that you should let your boyfriend leave. If he loved you he would help you out instead of giving up and being a freaking jerk about it. Seriously the dog will always love you and as you can see your boyfriend doesnt love you because he has the guts to break things off because of your dog behavior. And hey dont make your kids hearts break because of that stupid selfcentered boyfriend. I dont want to sound mean but its true. Seriously keep the dog. No Joke. Hes oviously not the right one for you and I wouldnt want him as a boyfriend. I mean he may be nice but after what you said he said he is just a fuc*ing bitc*! Now please dont report me for saying that. Im just saying KEEP THE DOG! for your kids at least. Think of how much you would be hurting them. GUys come and go. Dogs stay until the end. No matter what. Even if the are forced to or not they will always be there. BUt the guys will never be there until the end. I really dont believe that love lasts forever. Some lucky couple might last but thats about 1out of1000000000 of a chance. SO please keep the dog. DUmp the boyfriend before he even leaves and trust me you will miss him but not getting rid of your dog is worth it because you will feeel good that your kids are happy.
2006-12-06 08:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This dog does have some sort of personality disorder but even so, if I were in your position, I would probably choose to keep her instead of the boyfriend. The reason is I don't like the way he says "Either me or the dog". Can he be more tolerant and loving and help you find a solution to the dog problem? If he treats the dog this way, one day he could say to you "Either me or your kids." I would get rid of him rather than break the children's hearts.
2006-12-06 07:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her something like a VariKennel and she will not be able to tip it while you are gone. When you do leave, put something like a Kong with a bit of peanut butter in it for her to chew on.
I can understand your boyfriend for not wanting to put up with all that bad behavior but there IS a way to stop the behavior when you are gone (VariKennel type crate) and keep the kids happy because their dog stays.
Don't give up on the bad habits saying they are not preventable. They are. You don't want her running around in the road or tearing up the house. But if she is fine when you are there, fix the problem or you will be unhappy with or without the boyfriend.
2006-12-06 07:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI,
If you watch the programmes "Its me or the dog", or "Dog Borstal" you will see that literally any dog can be trained. You've tried training the dog and can't do it so enrol it at dog training classes. Usually you will find out that its the dog reactign to something that you are doing wrong (without realizing it) Also an animal is always there for you and the relationship lasts until the animal dies (unlike alot of human relationships) So to me if you ever have to choose between the two, the dog should win evewry time, good luck.
2006-12-06 21:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tanya W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend makes you choose like that, he is cruel and doesn't love you and the kids. Explain that you will not put yourself in the dilemma. Keep the dog. You are responsible for it and you must teach your kids that no one is disposable. Explain to your boyfriend that if he leaves it is his decision not yours. You want him to be with the rest of you, but the dog has been part of your family for 2 years. What if he wants to get rid of your kids next? So don't tell him to go, but explain that you don't accept the dilemma, you like things the way they are and it's his call. If he goes, then he's the jerk and you're better off without him. You can also train the dog, ask a professional.
Or lock the dog in an empty room, the bathroom or something when you are away.
2006-12-06 07:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try an escape free crate, see a vet for medication and get some good training. If your boyfriend STILL insist that you get rid of the dog then I'd say dump him. Your kids love the dog, you love the dog, the dog is just doing what she does and doesn't know any better and you have a responsibility to her too.
2006-12-06 08:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mary G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seperation anxiety is completely treatable, if you haven't successfully treated it then you didn't follow the correct training plan. Its not a case of trying everything and shutting her in a cage, thats not a treatment for seperation anxiety.
Your dog is stressed and the fact that there is tension in the family and the pack leader doesn't like her isn't going to help.
You need a proper treatment plan given by a behavioural trainer and you all need to work through it. See your vet for a referal to a registeredt behavioural trainer. Your pet insurance will cover the cost.
Or you need to euthanase or rehome the dog.
Or you say goodbye to your boyfriend.
2006-12-06 21:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my dog, to me he is everything, i would choose him over my family. BUT girl he doesn't do what you dog is doing. trashing the house, chewing holes in the wall. At her age she should no better which mean she will be like that whether you are with your partner or not. Basically you dog is destructible, unruly and basically has no respect for you. I dont like to say this but as much as you love you dog if she hasn't changed now she will never change and i think we both no the answer to that. Good Luck and i hope everyhting works out well x
2006-12-06 07:56:08 · answer #11 · answered by shelz042000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋