give me your reason.
coz this guy i'm seeing seems to have a problem ¬_¬!
2006-12-06 07:37:16 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe they have been hurt before and aren't going to risk it happening again
Edit
you asked a question regarding the race of you and your guy,
This could be his reason, as he may be frightened of offending his family by not chosing someone from his own ethnic background
2006-12-06 07:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, most guys arent thinking of a commitment. Most guys just want to date, see how far he can go with a girl. Then there are the ones that are questioning them selfs. Will I be able to keep her happy, am I going to be able to support her? Am I financially ready. But if a guy is looking for a girlfriend then he should also be thinking about his future with that person. If your affraid to commit then your not ready to be in a relationship.
2006-12-06 08:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by gizzmoeyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are hardwired, in a biological/genetic way, to spread their seed as much as possible because sheer number of offspring is the best way to insure that their particular arrangement of attributes continues.
Women are hardwired to find a partner to help raise the handful of children they are capable of having during their reproductive years because having a partner increases the likely hood of survival of the offspring.
On top of that you layer all the conditioned behavior and structure of society and individual experience and you have a lot of "reasons" as to why the sexes behave differently in relationships.
2006-12-07 04:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can I be frank here, guys know that if the mess up in any way, or even if it is not their fault, they get kicked out and the courts give everything to the wives and they guys have to give almost half their pay check to the wife and children, even if she moves in with some one else, now the guy not only loses his stuff, house and furniture, but her pay, and half of his pay too, and the wife keep the house and everything in it plus her pay, plus half of her ex-husbands and her new boy friends pay too,....and even if the guy was a great guy, but the girl wants a new boyfriend, it still happens the same way..
if they did that to girls, I think a lot of girls would be afraid too.
the courts are not fair when it comes to guys
2006-12-06 08:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys in general think in terms of all possibilities. We like to believe that everything has an alternative, but when we commit, we lose our alternatives. I personally don't have a problem with commitment, (just ask my wife). Just my opinion
2006-12-06 07:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by elcidiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Been hurt before.
2. Afraid someone better will come along.
3. Cost too much to support a g/f or wife
4. Can't do what they want, when they want, how they want and with whom they want.
5. Would have to brush their teeth and take a shower more often.
2006-12-06 07:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Becky F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did not want to commit to someone because i enjoyed making my own decisions.
when i do meet someone i want to be sure that i want to share everything in my life with that person and i was not ready to do that, and it seemed unfair to enter into a commitment which might have ended badly because of that.
scares me the thought of ending my single man days and having to think of someone else..selfish i know,but when i read on here all the unhappy people in marriages etc because alot of them did not make the right choices in the beginning,then I'm happy with that
2006-12-06 08:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by lifewriter10 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys have been hurt and hate it, and dont want to experience hurt again. some guys are not mature enough to know what commitment is!! Some guys have to much fun being single and dont wanna give it up! Which one is he?
2006-12-06 07:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on wht kind of guy it is. Like if he's got out of a serious relationship and got hurt or even don't want to work at it and know there's going to be drama. A lot of guys can't handle the drama but the sweeter ones will work at it if they really want this relationship to work.
2006-12-06 07:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by hugs and kisses 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from my own experiences... its hard to let go for me.
Its hard to make a commitment and pour myself into someone... give myself to them...
It takes time for me to be willing to do it... because I need to feel assured that she really cares about me, and that she's not just going to up and leave.
For most guys though... its the fact that they're always looking to be players. Always wanting to be free to get another girl on the side...
2006-12-06 08:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋