I got advice on how to behave yesterday. My boyfriend and I speak alot over the phone and we became very close but never met in person. I am from California by the way but my boyfriend's parents are planning to put us in two different rooms upon my visit. Is this normal? Here in California my boyfriend and I don't even share an apartment but don't you think they are being extreme? I have a lot of respect for them and everything. Like I said my previous question his mom and I are very close and she even sends me cards and gifts. We visited my parents in San Jose a few times and we were not seperated, my parents respected that we were grown.
2006-12-06 07:23:06 · 5 answers · asked by K.S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it's normal. Some people have values and morals and don't condone their children sleeping with their "dates" out of wedlock under their roof. Obviously your parents are different.
2006-12-06 07:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His parents house, his parents rules. You need to respect whatever rules she has in her home just as you would expect in return in your home. If you want her to ever let you share a room then you need show her that can obey her rules no matter how grown you are. If you don't like that answer then try talking to his mom about how you feel and ask her straight out why she is making you sleep seperately.
2006-12-06 15:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents house so you have to respect thier choice for you to sleep seperate... if you choose to start trouble may lead to your b/f leaving you! What is a couple nights sleeping alone? no big deal do it to show you have respect for his parents and his parents will be grateful that you respect thier choice good on both ends.. take it slow and easy and everything will be fine.... plus if you two want alone time by yourslef go for a walk or something..
2006-12-06 15:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a little confused, but i think i figured it out...
anywhooo....it's his parent's house and his parent's rules. it doesn't mean they don't like you or anything, they are just trying to keep your relationship "respectable".
the same goes in my parent's home. before my sister married her husband, anytime they came to visit they had seperate beds, even though they normally lived together.
just go with the flow. it's the holiday season and it's a time to be happy and joyous...not a time to focus on something trivial, like seperate rooms at your bf's parent's house.
take care:)
2006-12-06 15:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is their home and as their guest, you should abide by their standards. I don't think there is anything abnormal about it, and honestly wouldn't worry about it. It's more of a respect issue. They are not in any way trying to disrespect you or imply that you or your boyfriends are not adults. Enjoy your stay with them and don't even think about it!
2006-12-06 15:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋