How to reward child?

Question

If you reward a child with food,candy or toys for being good then won't it just create probs. in adulthood? I heard that the reason ppl eat junk food or impulse shop is because it makes them feel better. These things make them feel better because they were used to eating cookies or getting a toy when they had a bad day to make them feel better. Wouldn't it be just as bad to reward them with these things when they were good? Would they later use these things to make themselves feel better about themselves when they got older? If yes then how should you go about rewarding them if they do something good?

Answer 1

i dont think they need "stuff" to know that they are good - just explain what they did was good and why it was good, they will understand. a small reward now and again wont do them any harm but not every time.

Answer 2

Instead of food items, maybe reward them with a trip somewhere special! Or, my family uses a coin system. If we do something correct, we get rewarded with plastic colored coins. At the end of the week we have the option to spend those coins. Something like, 10 coins is a piece of candy, 30 is a trip to the park, museum, or pool and 50 would be a visit to the toy store. Of course, these are subject to change. But it's just a vague outline.

Answer 3

I was always rewarded by telling me how I did a great job and when I didn't, I was told how to make it better.

Especially when it came to chores I had to do as a child, simple stuff that helps you in adult hood but I felt like a grown up because I had a responsibility.

I have to disagree about the first comment where she says that
she tells her children "We don't have a lot of money."

That's information a child does not have to know and also, it is STILL instilling the correlation with a physical reward.

Surveys also have shown that as adults, you would rather get praise than a raise for a job well done, because it's a five minute high.

Answer 4

At a young age kids need to feel they did good. When i reward my children I tell them yes you did good and I love you and want to give or do this for you but i want you to understand that we dont have alot of money so we cannot reward you for everything you do with objects.
some times just little things like letting them stay up later on a weekend as good as food or toys, or renting a movie of their choice

Answer 5

I would reward them with dollars if they do chores around the house. This will teach them how to earn money by working at a young age. They'll get motivated to help around the house or help the family. With their earnings, they can buy their favorite food, toy, or candy rather than giving them the goods for free.

Answer 6

I agree with the first answer as this is what we do. I have a foster child who still has visits with mom and dad...they buy him things like it's Christmas every time they see him (twice a week each). He expects this from us..."if I clean my room, can I have this...etc". It gets really annoying and we have even asked the parents not to do it...don't send any of this home...etc, but they don't listen. We reward with a few extra minutes of free time (to do whatever he wants to do), tv time (he gets 5 minutes before bedtime), pillow fights...etc. He actually thinks we are poorer than his bio parents, because we are always telling him that we don't have the money to go out and do the things that his bio parents do! For his b-day he got a game system, a bike, an easle, two stuffed animals, clothes...etc! Just from the two of them! Now niether one of them have enough to pay their rent! I think it's useless, dumb, hurtfull etc to reward children this type of way!

Thanks for listening to me vent! It's been one of those days!~

Answer 7

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Answer 8

First of all, i still buy things on impulse and eat junk and i was never "rewarded" this way as a child. no snack cakes and potato chips in my house! Secondly, to reward a child, i recommend vocal praise. If a child is being naughty, ignore him/her and praise another child who is behaving. (ie, brother isn't eating dinner, but sister is. You say "Sister, I'm so proud of you for eating a good dinner"

Answer 9

that is called the incentive way which make young boys or childs try to do thier best to gain the candy or the toy
its its good matter when u encourage ur child to do good for a reward

Answer 10

the best way to reward a child if they have been good treat them to a nite out if they r old enough , or buy them something nice