I was at a bar with some friends last week and a very attractive girl started talking to me and gave me her number to call her. She's 19 and I'm 26 and married, but my marriage is on the rocks. We've already been talking about getting separated. Should I call the girl??
2006-12-06 07:17:29 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You come across that the seperation does not concern you and you are egger to move on.You also sound like you just want a piece of ***.
You need to remember she is 19 and just starting to discover life...(and right about now you are probably thinking "I will help her to discover")...but that is not the answer.This took place at a bar and she might just be looking for a piece of *** also...BUT...you are still technically married.
You and your wife may have had your falling outs and no matter how bad it is or gotten all parties deserve to have respect.
Make sure there is no repairing the relationship and that the seperation is a go, as you would not want to go on with something and realize you still love your wife and yous can work it out,then you have yourself in a real bad mess.
Explaining something to 1 women is hard enough for a man...Imagine having to explain to 2.
If it is a mutual agreement on seperation then call once yous are actually seperated,If you were hurt by it wait as this is your way of getting back,If it was you who wanted the seperation at least have respect.
I would have to say do not call her at this time...and when or if you do ,let her know why you did not contact her right away.
2006-12-06 07:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 15 years and have been in your situation before. I made the right choice and stayed faithful. My wife has remained faithful to me also and we have had some real ruff times. We have separated before for a short time but I just couldn't give up on her and my children. Let me tell you I have had very attractive women ask me to bed (when I was looking) but I always remembered, I made a life long commitment to my wife called marriage and Never gave in. My wife and children deserve the best and yours does too. If you give up on your marriage then you are not trying hard enough and do not want to make it work in the first place. A true man will stay committed and stay out of the bars, the bars will always have single young women there.
2006-12-06 07:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by SVS Blog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alas, the honour of the human race is on the rocks. First off
"dude" you really shouldn't be out at the bar if your marriage is so bad. If you really have any guts at all, drop the beer and go home and make things right with your wife. Good grief man! Secondly this girl is way too young for you, things like that don't work. And lastly, if you're still married you should at least wait to date until you're not!
2006-12-06 07:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by TheONEJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This marriage situation is a trick, a mild of hand, some thing compelled upon society by out date regulations and is a comic book tale. no longer some thing very last always which includes 2 human beings!! human beings "commit" as you're saying as a results of criteria placed on them from the authorities ie.. tax deductions, wellbeing care and so on. If the flaws a married couple were entitled to may be had by two human beings shacking, there's a actual shrink in this sham called marriage.
2016-11-24 19:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by hukill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married..and it is on the rocks..then your emphasis should be placed on A. Removing Marriage From Rocks, B. Ending Marriage before Rocks become Boulders and crush the spirit of everyone involved....You Married your wife for a reason..Love may have been a factor I hope...and if that is the case..then love can overcome all. If you allow a one time meeting to lure you away from your marriage..It is my opinion that you wil be making a mistake.
2006-12-06 07:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how tempting it must be for you to call her now, knowing that your marriage is already on the way out. But what kind of guy do you want to be?
If you ask me (and you did) wait. Wait until you are legally and morally free before you go after anyone else. You are either married or you're not, and you sir, are still married.
2006-12-06 07:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between a marriage being on the rocks, and a marriage being over.
If it is over, feel free to call the girl. You have nothing to lose.
"If it is on the rocks" and you care about your wife, I would seek counselling and not the other girl.
2006-12-06 07:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should be worried about your marriage...not the other girl! There are millions of girls out there you can be with but you chose one to marry...If that means something to you then you might want to work your marriage out...if your more interested in meeting other girls, then yall might as well get divorced already...get the hurt over with for the both of you.
2006-12-06 07:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You're a married man and need to clean up your first mess before getting involved with a teenager. What makes you think a married man in a lousy marriage is attractive to a 19 year old?
2006-12-06 07:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No you Should not, 'cause you are still married. Separations are meant for "a break" and then you two come back together, hopefully. Sounds like you want to explore something with the 19 y.o. Don't do it.
2006-12-06 07:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by mezhenari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋