This guy that im totally in love with, lost his virginity to me 3 years ago.... he said he loved me too... Well then he joined the army, which took him away & he is based elsewhere..... Well hes always in contact, but says he isnt ready for a relationship (due to him bein based away) and everytime he does come home, he comes to see me & acts as if hes never been away..... Does this mean that he really does love me still or is it just because he can get his own way (if ya know what i mean)
Please help me...... He means everything to me & i love him sooooo much!
Im going to see him over christmas & i need to know so that i can have a chat with him about it then!
Thanks in advance to everyone who answers with helpful questions xx
2006-12-06 07:16:30 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't "want a relationship" because it is too easy for him to "dip his wick" in the many places he is visiting whilst in the army AND go home and get a piece from you.
Shangri la......
2006-12-06 07:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by KD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
young lady (sorry i dont know your age group ) speaking froma guys view he is not truly in love with you . He has it to handy as it is fly in fly out if there was commitment there now you would know the feeling of being really needed any mention of a ring didnt think so you are being used as a half way house that not fair on you you still have a life to live &enjoy no more fun and games for jack is my advice then you see an other side of him .These army guys have a rough time we know but some use that excuse which i think you all ready seen through . For you it has to be New Year new life it will be tough but you be strong find someone who will commit to you sincerely good luck
2006-12-06 16:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he's not ready fo a relationship then, chances are it came out right the first time. As many people in my own question on lond distance relationships have voiced, at such a young age with no serious commtment it isn't worth it. Chances are he files back into town at a set date, and plays on your sympathies and feelings for him to get a sure bootycall until it's time to go..then he's back to Mr. I am not ready for a relationship. Don't do it to yourself. You deserve better chica!
I suggest you ask him what's it gonna be..if he can manage to say he's not able for a relationship but constantly stay in contact with you and find you when he returns home..then how much harder can it be to just say.."hey you know what.. thats what a relationship kinda consists of anyway.." and make you happier?
Good luck
2006-12-06 15:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by GreyRainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down when he comes back at xmas and tell him how your feeling. He is maybe saying that he doesnt want a relationship with you so that he doesnt feel guilty doing the dirty on you when he meets other girls when he's away? I dont know the guy, so just talk to him. Its a long time to hang around waiting for someone when they may not really want you. At least you will know where you stand if you talk to him!
2006-12-06 15:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by enigma64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means he could go into combat and doesn't want a wife to worry about..and he enjoys havin some waiting whenever he's back in town...that's how I thought when I was in the Army lo those many years ago..this year was the 40th anniversary of my induction into the Army
2006-12-06 15:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks to me that he loves you, since he's still in touch and visits you... And I think he's not ready for a relationship because he's based elswhere... Simple as that!!
So, It would be nice if you let him know that you love him and you can deal with being in a long-distance relationship with him...
Best of luck!!
2006-12-06 15:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Pianojazzman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Well I am sorry but I think if he is always in contact with you and gets his leg over when ever he sees you the you ARE in a 'relationship'... for goodness sake....he sounds like he is having his cake and eating it BIG time...you need to move on.....have your chat but I doubt he has been true to you....or why not agree he is having a relationship with you?? It is too handy for him.. me thinks he is using you.... sigh... you deserve better, a guy who is upfront, honest and loving... good luck..love ain't easy...you will get over it! yes you will!
2006-12-06 15:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has certainly got the best of both worlds hasn't he?
Feedom from guilt when he is away from you. And a nice piece for when he gets home.
I'm sorry sweetheart, It looks like this is going nowhere fast.
Get yourself a decent sort that will stand by you, and with you.
2006-12-06 15:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well he coming home safe and to you that's love i think army life is tough enjoy the time together
2006-12-06 15:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by chav69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess he's trying to console himself when you are away. He doesn't want anything to tamper with his career. Cool down, he loves you.
2006-12-06 15:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by saintbeng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋