I've been in a long distance relationship for a few months.When I go down to see my boyfriend,I stay at his place,don't have to put my hand in my purse once.But when he comes up to see me,he does have to pay around £50 a night in a hotel and has to pay for his food etc..this is because I live wit my parents,& we're not serious enough for him to chill out at my place wit my parents.However, he's sayin he won't come up unless he can sleep at my place,he was gonna come up just before xmas when my parents are away,but is reconsidering it.I told him that he'll have to stay in a hotel,cuz my sister will tell my parents that he stayed when they get back -bear in mind that this guy's salary is pretty high.I called him da other day and said "You can either stay in a hotel that I'll pay towards or come alone without your friend and stay at my place".I told him to think about it.last nite,I texted sayin"You made up your mind?"and he hasn't replied.Do u think I'm being unfair?should I call him?
2006-12-06 07:00:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. do you think its odd that he always brings a friend up with him when he comes to see me? or am I reading too much into it? cuz he was goin to bring his mate up regardless of if he stays in a hotel or at mine.
2006-12-06 07:12:16 · update #1
I'm 22, he is 38
2006-12-06 07:14:46 · update #2
i think you should call him...ask him what is going on and let him know your not defining your parents ....let him know next time you visit him you'll stay in a hotel to...just so it can be even....or just get your own place if your of age.
2006-12-06 07:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by ladywetherell23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to pay anything towards his stay in your town, nor should you be expected to let him stay at your house since you are still living with your parents. He makes good money as you stated, and I'm assuming you don't seeing as you still live with your parents. It also sounds like you are very young and he is older. Don't go out of your way to make this relationship work. If he has developed feeling toward you other than just wanting sex, he will not fuss so much about the money he spends while visiting you. Also, if you don't know him very well, it could be dangerous to let him know where you live if you are still a teenager. How old are you? And how old is he? You're very young and you have plenty of time to meet guys and date. Be carefull honey! And please use protection during sex. You certainly don't want a sexually transmitted disease or an unexpected pregnancy.
YES, it is very odd that he brings over a friend while visiting you. PLEASE be aware, this is not normal and you don't know him very well at all. He may want to do a threesome with you and his friend. So PLEASE if you are in this for love, back off. He is not worth it. This is sounding like a very dangerous sitiuation.
2006-12-06 15:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he has to come up with a friend? If he has money: why does it bother him to pay for a hotel? Have you guys had sex yet? Maybe he wants to stay with you so he can get some. Better yet, why dont you join him at the hotel? I guess you parents are too old fashion and your sister is not trustworthy for him not to be able to stay at your place. I honestly wouldnt date a girl who needs parents and sister's aproval for everything. I think he is not replying because he is pissed. The solution here its simple: You need to grow up and stop depending on your family's aproval for everything and he needs to find a better alternative than just: my way or the highway
2006-12-06 15:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A LITTLE YOU GOTTA MEET HIM HALF WAY AT SOME POINT NOT ALL THE TIME BUT FOR ALL YOU KNOW MONEY MAY BE REALLY TIGHT RIGHT NOW SO WHY DON'T YOU OUT RIGHT PAY FOR THE HOTEL, I THINK IT MAY BE MORE SO THE THOUGHT OF YOU GOING OUT OF YOUR WAY FOR HIM THE WAY HE DOES FOR YOU US WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE THAT IN A RELATIONSHIP IT'S GIVE AND TAKE AND COMPROMISE MEET HIM IN THE MIDDLE ON THIS. I'M SURE HE KNOWS THAT HE CAN'T STAY AT YOUR PARENTS HOUSE THAT'S KINDA DISRESPECTFUL, BUT IT MAYBE JUST THE THOUGHT OF KNOWING HEY SOMETIMES SHE CAN HELP ME OUT WHEN I NEED HER TO KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING.
2006-12-06 15:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him if he wants to be a tight ar*se let him.Men always like to think they have the upper hand and he is making you sweat ,turn it round and let him sweat.
2006-12-06 15:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Nookie bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl should never call a boyfriend you should wait on his call
2006-12-06 15:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Will S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont call and dont pay
2006-12-06 15:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by susanne l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for his call
2006-12-06 15:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u should call him u'r bf is supposed to lky everthing nomatter wat! if he is mad **** him lyk the world says friends r 4ever **** boys!!
2006-12-06 15:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Miley C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋