My best guy friend that Ive known for 15 years started dating in the summer and broke up a couple months ago. We told each other that we wanted to stay friends no matter what. He broke up with me cause he doesn't feel he is good enough and he is soo busy with everything that he barely has time to sleep. The point is I know he is busy but it hurts right now just to be his friend. If by chance we don't get back together when things clear up what are my chances in staying friends? Have any of you dated a best friend and stayed friends?
2006-12-06 06:55:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm still working on it.
My ex-gf was my best friend for the better part of 6 years. She and I fell in love and started a relationship. A third person entered the relationship several months later. She and I both fell in love with him, and he with us. We were all together for about a year, before I had to leave. Without going into details, it just wasn't a healthy relationship for me. I am still very much in love with them. I left the relationship in January.
We all attend the same dojo, so I run into my them both all the time. It's still pretty painful.
There have been many hurtles to being friends again. There are many things I have to resolve with her.
It will be a very long time, if ever, that my ex-gf and I could get back to being best friends. There are just too many things we cannot talk about anymore.
2006-12-06 06:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think once you crossed the boundaries of your friendship that it is no longer a friendship. And that although you have known him for 15 years, he is still a man. Men like a challenge. The more you are a sure thing the less intriguing you become. I am not condoning playing games with this person. I think you should reflect on the break-up. Who initiated it? Or was it mutual? SInce he started out as a friend, he may be trying to let go of you without hurting you. You also stated that it hurts to be a friend right now. When I experienced this, I found that distancing myself from my friend gave me time to heal and get a more objective view of the relationship. In the end, I decided to make a clean break of the relationship and although it broke my heart, I became my peaceful self again.
2006-12-06 07:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Yuli P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I have! 15 years is a long time you have been with him. To stay "just friends" keep in touch either by phone or email. It sounds like he still has strong feelings for you so if you want to give him another chance, being his friend during this period is a great idea. You can also go on lunch dates about once a week since he is so busy. It can work . . . Good Luck!
2006-12-06 07:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's VERY difficult (i.e. impossible) to remain friends after a break up. Very messy and a lot of feelings still involved. Do you want to listen to him talk about his latest date? The ONLY way this is possible is if you take time off with minimal contact so you can each sort out your feelings. Now if you're wanting to remain friends has ANYTHING WHATSOEVER to do with the hope of getting back together with him, then it will never work. It will only prolong your suffering over a long period of time. To TRULY be FRIENDS you must get over any romantic feelings you have for this guy.
2006-12-06 07:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Shane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the exact same thing right now except mine happened a week ago. He was my best friend for 3 years before we got into a serious relationship. I am definitely hurt right now so I can't be friends with him at this point, but I think in time I will be able to friends with him.
2006-12-06 07:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by missinghim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some space first before you can be friends. Also some time for both of your feelings to work themselves out so that you guys can actually be friends without the feelings getting in the way. Just give it some time and everything always works itself out.
2006-12-06 07:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru that 2. It is hard to remain friends especially if it ended on bad terms. I would try talking to him and see what he says. But if he is too busy to talk to you then i say let em roll. If you decide this please don't back track. I lost a good friend this year because he let his heart lead him 2 the wrong place at most definitely the wrong time. Baby goodluck in whatever you decide.
2006-12-06 07:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Kimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the quantity of touch. the main important's that in case you the two think of the different is lovable and you spend sufficient time with eachother.... some thing's at last gonna bypass down.... it quite is obviously obtainable to stay basically pals with the different intercourse, yet charm could be absent, or the two could be too shy to make a flow, or somebody is purposely keeping their distance...
2016-10-17 21:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Hope you can stay friends . as for me i have a ex boyfriend
i had to move a way from him. and we try ed to make it work but
it did not. 23 years later he looked me up, we talk when we
can he is in Iraq right now. my feelings for him never changed.
so who knows what can happen.
2006-12-06 07:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tried to, but didnt work. we couldnt atlk about our new relationships or anything. i believe in cutting all ties, but thats just me
2006-12-06 06:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋