What do you think of this???

Question

My common law husband of 3 years has his own mastercard, and when I say I want one he gets irritable (they are prepaid), we have a joint bank account as well. Well I want my own bank account for savings reasons and he hates the idea and says I dont need one if we have a joint account, well his pre paid mastercard is kinda like a travelling bank for him..is this fair or not???
I am an adult, I should have my own account, I dont need to justify why, right?

Answer 1

If he doesnt like it it could be 2 things. One hes a jerk or 2 he doesnt want tyou to be independant of him because hes a fraid you might leave him if you get to independant
have a talk with him tell him why and ask him why he feels the way he does and then get your own account or whatever you want you dont have to answer to him if its not illegal
hes being unreasonable
God bless

Answer 2

It seems he wants to be in control of you and it looks like its work so far. And you know what, you should open up your own saving account, he doesn’t have to know!!! You don’t want to be dependent on him it only gives him more control and power. A woman is nothing once she gives her power to a man, remember that. Let him think what he thinks, but do what you know you have to do for your sake (and your children), even if that means going behind his back and doing it. And yes, you’re an grown adult you don’t have to ask your husband for permission to open up your own bank accounts or to have a prepaid credit card.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

There isn't any reason why you need to "Justify" having a checking account of your own. However you still need to discuss it with him and explain to him why you're doing it. Don't lie, because then you are just adding another dilemma to the mix. When you talk to him say, " I AM getting a savings/checking account of my own. This is why, -"Insert Reasons Here"-. :o)

Perhaps he just doesn't really understand why you want it. Maybe he is a controlling freak. The outcome of this situation should give you a good idea which category he falls under. Then you might have another decision to make. :o)
Best of Luck!

Answer 4

Honey get your own account and tell him after the fact. Really what kind of man does he think he is. Does he not realize that it is the 21 century and the men do not rule the earth. Also get your own mastercard too. I really disagree with the fact that men figure that they should control everything right to the money and to me this sounds like what is happening to you. My husband tried that one with me and I ended up leaving him for six months and he barely made it to the birth of his son that is now 12 months

Answer 5

You're not common law after only 3 years. In some states there is no common law even after 7 years. I know here in Maine there is not.

You're depending on this guy for money, and you're both poor as churchmice to boot. Get a job of your own and let him worry about child care, so you can build your own savings account. He sounds controlling and un-dependable.

Answer 6

We had the same problem. What I figured out was that he thought I was opening an account in preparation to leave him. Once I explained I just wanted one in case something horrible happened and to help build my credit, he was fine with it. We have the pre paid MC thing too, it is pretty easy to call and have yourself added.

Answer 7

You need to get out of this relationship if you are not happy. He seems to be a bit too controlling about the money and your life. If you have friends or family go there. If not go to a woman's shelter. Your life doesn't have to be so meaningless.

Answer 8

GOOD HEAVENS!!!!! IF THIS IS A COMMON LAW MARRIAGE-GET OUT!!! HE IS TOO CONTROLLING OF YOU!!! IT WON'T GET ANY BETTER EITHER! That being said, who the hell said you NEEDED his permission? If you want one go get one-just don't tell him about it, I did. Not for those reasons, but for my own. Be sure to check the mail or have the monthly statement sent to a friend or family member though, or he will find out.

Answer 9

you should have your own savings account just in case something happens and you need to leave your husband ( common law same thing) don't tell him like this just tell him you want to save for something special and do it all by yourself ask him why he can have a matercard and you can't at least have a savings account.

Answer 10

wow he is really controlling. get a backbone and stand up for yourself. noone should be able to stop you from getting your own bank account. time to reevaluate your relationship.