My daughter will be 11 in March, and still talked about Santa and his reindeer, etc....well I finally had the talk with her, and told her there is a Santa in our hearts, yada yada yada....and we also talked about the real Santa way back when.
Her best friend has made the remark that my daughter allready knew, and I felt that she allready knew, but wanted her to hear it from me, so that she would 1.)trust me and 2.)not get made fun of at school, if she did talk about it there.
My question is, did I do the right thing??? She is almost 11, and I knew at 7???
2006-12-06 06:45:43 · 26 answers · asked by Yahoo Answerer 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well tinkerbell24 (which I assume is Jeff Gordon's number), I know she will trust me because she knows all parents have done it, and as I said we talked about the fact that there was a real Santa, and he lives in our hearts, but thanx anyway, bud!
2006-12-06 06:52:34 · update #1
Hey GP, thank you, my oldest daughter did the same thing too! It was alot of fun having an "accomplice" lol....but my 10 year old is the youngest one, so now I am kinda bummed! We decided tho, we will still sit out food for Santa, make reindeer food, and gifts will not show up til they go to bed the night before!! Merry Christmas to you and yours!
2006-12-06 06:55:40 · update #2
Best to hear it from YOU so you can choose how to explain (even if she "already" knew). I "think" I was about 8 or 9--too long ago to remember!--& kids were teasing me at school because I still believed. My older sister told me first, & then I asked my teacher who very diplomatically said Santa Claus was a "spirit" & I do recall feeling victorious! However, my dad found out my sister had told me, & he felt it was "about time." You are NOT being mean. The wonderful "fairy tale" kids so love--of Santa Claus--should properly be explained by a caring parent, which you obviously are.
Edit: Just a moment of whimsy; if I had a fireplace, I MIGHT be tempted to believe even now. Seriously, I'm very glad that I had as many years "believing" because it was wonderful fun. "Santa" came in to hang my stocking on the foot of the bed, & I squinted my eyes tight because I knew he didn't want me to see him. That was such a thrill; to "feel" his presence & not look at him! I believe my mum would have let it go longer--she'd even whisper late Christmas Eve as if talking with him. Santa Claus was perhaps the most magic thing I recall of my childhood. AND. I did NOT lose trust in my mum, because of the way she explained it to me. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-06 06:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she probably knew but enjoyed the fantasy. My mother told me when I was 12 but I didn't completely believe her for a long time because of an experience one year. I heard bells and saw "Santa" in full wardrobe going in the neighbor's back door. When I looked in our door, there were gifts under the tree that weren't there when my dad took us out back to pop firecrackers. After that, even though I even helped put my sister's gifts under the tree, there were still a few years that I didn't make the connection that it was the man next door that did the Santa thing.
Another thing I'll add, I didn't "teach" either of my children Santa in the same way I was taught (that he brought gifts after we were asleep, etc.), and they were always both just as excited about Christmas as I was believing in him. They will tell you that themselves. I even let them go see "Santa" at the mall if they wanted to and write letters to him. We played along with the other kids, but they were taught the real meaning of Christmas and still got gifts. Many of the traditions we started then, we still do to this day and one is grown and one is a teen.
We also gave to charities and made boxes for the Samaritan's purse.
I think you did the right thing. Even though I wasn't sure about what my mother told me all the way, I appreciated that she took the time with me. She even showed me how Santa started in the Encyclopedia that day and it is a special memory.
2006-12-06 07:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by rugbee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you did the right thing. Although I told my children from the get, that Santa Claus was more a symbol for giving, sharing, and caring and having Christmas spirit. Would a mother who really cared about her children do anything mean, I think not, you did not want her to be made fun of at school, and words can hurt worse than anything sometimes, saving your daughter from this pain is not mean it is just being the Mom.
2006-12-06 12:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its cool you had made the decision to let her know about the true MEANING of Christmas and that it will always be in our hearts. Especially even after the fact that her best friend had told you she already knew. You still went out of your way to let her know so this will help her to trust you even more now so she will never wonder "Why did my mom never let me know that Santa was real and I had to find out through friends, school etc....."? If for some reason, she still wanted to believe thats her own doing but probaly would of had got made fun of in school. I kind of knew but played off with my mom for a little while cause I didn't want her to know that I knew.......so look it that! =)
2006-12-06 07:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by April 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if it was the right thing. But she probably 'knew', just wanted to hang on to the fantasy. My older kids became the BEST elves in the world - they had soooooo much fun keeping Santa going for their younger siblings. They would jingle bells during the night and cupped their hands and 'ran' accross the walls (reindeer hoofs). Good Memories!
2006-12-06 06:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by GP 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing. I didn't give it up to my daughter unitll she was 11, and she was upset that I hadn't told her sooner. She said that all her fiends had already told her that it wasn't real, and that she had been made fun of by her friends foe still believing in Santa. I guess I should have told her a little sooner. Maybe 9 or 10
2006-12-06 06:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by angelbaby4912 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My twins are almost 8 and still believe 100%, but I do think you have done the right thing, as I will probably do the same for mine next year. You are lucky to have kept the fantasy alive for so long! I will miss this utter trust in Father Christmas when it goes!
2006-12-06 07:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by kirroyale3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No harm in believing in Santa, pondering the incontrovertible fact that he became into an fairly genuine being -- St. Nicholas. :) it relatively is fairly unhappy that persons are making this such an argument. adolescence innocence is a gorgeous element. there is on no account something incorrect with it. My teenagers are 8 a million/2 and 5, and have self assurance. in addition they comprehend that the authentic meaning of Christmas is the celebration of Christ's birthday. it relatively is okay. :)
2016-10-04 23:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by kinjorski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you did the right thing. I was one of the kids who found out in first grade and told everybody else and then made fun of them. Then, I got my younger brother in on the secret so we all could make fun.
2006-12-06 06:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no prob im 11 just tell ur daughter staright foward maybe after christmas i kinda figured there was no santa so I asked my dad and he told me the truth! its easy ur not mean maybe u could say like the easter bunny start off with that
2006-12-06 12:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by narutoyuyuhakusho fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋