Im dating a very nice guy, he is sweet and charming, but i have a crush on another guy for 2years now and I cant seem to get over him!!! The guy im inlove with is my boyfiend's best friend I met my BF through him, he likes me too. I am really confused!!!!
Help me??
2006-12-06 06:15:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should make up your mind quick! Don't play around or it'll come back to bite you on the azz!
2006-12-06 06:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am involved in a similar situation right now, although the two men don't know each other, so I can sympathize. You say your bf is "sweet and charming", but if he really satisfied your needs, you wouldn't be looking so intently at someone else. When I was happy with my guy, I didn't really look around. Still, the feelings are there, so you must face them. Have you and your crush talked about your interest in one another? It seems odd that he would set you up with another guy if he was interested in you. Did you date your bf because you subconsciously hoped it would bring you closer to your crush? Think about why you find this guy so much more intriguing than your bf, and examine what qualities they have that are different. Then you can figure out what you want from a relationship. Though you are probably hoping to hear that you should date your crush, I wouldn't reccomend it, at least not until you've given your bf (and yourself) a chance to recover from this relationship. It may be that if you take time away from both of them, you will find someone else. Good luck!
2006-12-06 06:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're innately polyamorous. You have the capability to love more than one person at a time.
Honesty is very important in this case. Be up-front about this to the people you are interested in a relationship with and those who you already have a relationship with. If they agree, then it's very important to keep up a high level of communication.
Polyamory is frowned upon by many. Some think it's worse than cheating (i.e. breaking the rules and running around behind peoples backs). Why dishonesty would be considered better than honesty is beyond me, but I've seen this in my life. I've met many women who were fine with the idea of having an affair, but the idea that I'd be getting it ok'd by my wife was something they couldn't accept.
Most of the polyamorous people I know are women, btw. A number in three person relationships - often living with the two men involved.
My last relationship was with two people. The three of us had a very warm and loving relationship for close to a year. Lack of communication on one of their parts led to the breakdown of the relationship.
2006-12-06 06:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I can see why!! Now this may not be the answer to your problem, but it has worked for me. Please bear in mind that I have no knowledge of you, and that I do not wish to be unkind to you!! However, in such a situation as this , I would have sex with all of them, and that usually brings a lot of these feelings to the surface, and in most instances, it causes you to see things in a different way. This will enable you to sort your feelings out and know which way to go. Now I am not a female, but that is how it has worked out for me. One of them will come out being very special over the others. After all, you can learn more about someone by spending two hours in bed, than you can by knowing them for a year!! Good luck G
2006-12-06 06:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to have a lot in your plate.. i think you might need a break from it all... i put myself in a similar predicament once and i took time for myself only.. i needed to clear my mind and it helped.. having a nice guy is not all a woman needs .. there has to be chemistry and all of those little things that make you feel this is the one... all i can tell you is leave your bf if hyou are not happy.. wait a bit and if things are sitll there for his friend then go for it.. there is only one life.. freaking end of the world is coming... tsunamis and all kinds of catastrophies..(well...this is my excuse for me to enjoy life one day at a time..lol)........... at this point i do waht i can to live for me as if today is the last day.... your bf will get over it.. we all do.. but please take time for you before you make that decision...good luck and have fun..safe fun!!!!!!!!
2006-12-06 06:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by mmm..whynot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have fun with all of them. your dating right? dating means your Dating right?
so date away>>>>
2006-12-06 06:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way you are in trouble... you are going to the girl who split up two friends...don't do that.....
2006-12-06 06:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to figure out what is important.
2006-12-06 07:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus know that wat u do will come back at u, so be careful wen playing with people's hearts
2006-12-06 06:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by crisis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋