now let me tell, this girl is fat and ugly with whole buncha pimples. and she has no booty and shes annoying but i dont want to hurt her feelings
2006-12-06 06:13:46 · 38 answers · asked by gowitdaflow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you honestly want to go out with her?
If not, then politely decline
2006-12-06 06:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Tell her that you're flattered by her interest, but that you don't feel you'd be a good match. Just say, "I don't like you in that way." If you tell her that you're busy, she may just think she caught you at a bad time and try again. Above all, remember to be polite. Think about how you would like to be treated if you were in her shoes. She's probably not very popular due to her looks, so she may just talk at length with anyone who is polite to her. Be sure to let her down gently. I'm sure you would want the same.
Although you can't force yourself to be attracted to someone and you are not obligated to say yes to everyone who's interested in you, you may be surprised by what you'll find if you spend time with girls who aren't exactly your "type". For instance, I always said that I'd never date an overweight guy, but now I have a crush on a boy who is probably more than twice my weight. Although a protruding gut isn't the sexiest thing alive, I don't really care in his case because as I was drawn to his intelligence, I found that he did have some attractive features. Who knows, maybe someday after you've matured you may find yourself noticing people who previously didn't fit your physical criteria.
2006-12-06 06:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't tell her that she is not someone you would usually date. And don't tell her that she is not your type.
Just say No, but thanks for asking.
She might be o.k. with that. I mean if she is, like you said: "fat, and ugly with a whole buncha pimples, and no booty" and she STILLasked you out. She obviously doesn't have low self esteem, she is very confident and she is not intimidated.
If you say the wrong thing to her, you could destroy that.
Don't be that guy!!!!!
And just for future reference, "Looks are not everything". Later on in life you will appreciate a woman with confidence in herself, with a positive self esteem, whose interested in going out with you. She may be just what you need to succeed in life.
Whatever you do, BE NICE!!!!!!
2006-12-06 06:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Perfect 78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her every time that she asks you out that you've got other plans, apologize and avoid. eventually she'll get the hint. if she doesn't get the hint though you may have to result to what may seem cruel but must be done regardless of her emotions. tell her that you are honestly not interested. if she asks why all you have to say is that she's not your type. but beware, never take anything from her that she gives you to win you over. if you accept any gifts you'll be expected to return the favor, but at a much higher price.
if all else fails, tell her that you like guys. (It worked for my brother, we all used to work together in high school. This chick that was a.) insane b.)thought my bro was 'a hot dude' and c.) relentless, kept on asking him out and offering to take him out and pay for everything and so on and so forth until eventually we got the whole crew together and said o.k., from now on Kevin is gay, at least when Tina is around. it totally worked because she hated gay guys and as soon as she found out that he 'was gay' she quit and life returned to normal)
2006-12-06 06:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by hey_finny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sir Gallant, I suggest you take her out and kiss her. I have heard of this story about frogs being turned into princes. This may work for her as well and you might turn into a prince. You need to remember that beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. I say if she is nice then go have dinner with her. She did not ask for more then that. If you are more into yourself though then just say no but try to be nice.
2006-12-06 06:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind, don't Look at her funny and be curtious! Tell her that sorry and that your not intrested and that you really do wish to be friends, but that you also had other plans. But tell her thank you for the compliment or suggestion and that She's a cool cat.
2006-12-06 06:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply thank her for her interest, but tell her you don't feel the two of you are a good match...and wish her luck in finding someone who will make a good partner for her.
Treat her as you would want to be treated, if someone were rejecting you.
2006-12-06 06:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be honest.
I've always found the best way to say this is...
"Thank you for the compliment, but I'm not interested at this time." (it is a compliment to have a girl ask you out, no matter how unattractive she might be)
2006-12-06 06:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless you will hurt anyone feelings if you tell them no! But if she ask you "when can we hook up?" just say "so and so you are nice but not my type, I'd think we will be better off as friends
2006-12-06 06:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by NayNae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because of rude people like you that people like her end up feeling like a nobody. For all you know she has a great personality and you would be privileged to get to know her. But it looks like you will never get the chance. And no I am not fat!!!
2006-12-06 06:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by lindylu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her you have a girl friend. Women usually give up easily if you reference another female in your life. They're not like guys who when they realize a girl is taken, they'll still consider the possibilities that she's unhappy in the relationship.
Females? Unless they are totally desperate and sl utty, they pretty much give up completely once they think that you are taken.
2006-12-06 06:16:29 · answer #11 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋