how do i show someone i am changing for the better and want to work things out?

Question

me and my girl recently broke up due to the fact that i pretty much bombed everything. i did a lot of wrong things and pretty much tried to blame everyone else for what i was doing wrong. we've been split since september and honestly i didn't realize what i had until it was too late. i tried to tell her that i was working on my issues but she doesn't want to hear that. half the time she says it doesn't matter what i do and the other half of the time she tells me to prove it. i love this woman to death but cant seem to get what she actually wants from me and i cant seem to show her how much i actually do care for and adore her.

Answer 1

It's over. Change for the better, and be a better man with the next relationship. Stop clinging to the past- move forward.

Answer 2

Dude, when you have messed up for a while, and you had not realized it until it hit the fan.. Chances now it's too late. She's probably already found someone else who can treat her right,and is ready to move on. You have been sitting back, just taking your relationship for granted, now i'm sorry to say too late. But life is not over.. You have to take some time off, leave her alone, get with your buddies to help you keep your mind clear, until you can get her out of your system. Their are a million women out there, who you can start all over with, and make sure you don't take her for granted, and all things will turn out right, if you don't do the same thing again..

Answer 3

You can't show anybody anything. It doesn't work that way. That's an immature response to a mature situation. Your girlfriend gave you an amazing gift by leaving you, take full advantage of this situation.

You have to take it day by day doing the best you can and deal with your issues as openly and as honestly.

That you are only motivated to do this for her sake shows though you have a lot more to learn. Choose now to change for yourself, for your sake otherwise don't do it all. Your girlfriend is not like a teacher, one you can give her what she wants to hear so you can get an A.

Be prepared for the long haul too, this could take years. But if you adjust your motivation and do it for yourself and your sake, it'll truly be worth it.

Answer 4

Show, don't tell.

Fix your issues as best you can, and try (I know it's hard!) to do it for the sake of improving yourself, and not necessarily to please her. That way even if she disappoints you you're a better man.

Tackle those issues one at a time.

Let her find out from the people around you that you've gotten better. They may be a better judge of that than yourself anyway, and she'll certainly believe 'He's changed' faster than 'I've changed'

Answer 5

noone really knows how "BAD" you bombed things, so thats a hard one to answer. But you cant make her give you another chance, you just have to hope and pray that she will believe you. If she doesnt, take this experience and learn from it.

Answer 6

OKAY WERE THE THINGS THAT YOU WERE DOING WRONG TOTALLY PERTAINING TO THE RELATIONSHIP OR WAS IT YOURSELF OUTSIDE OF THAT. LIKE AT THIS POINT THE CHANGES YOU'VE MADE INTIALLY HAVE TO BE FOR YOU THINGS THAT YOU'VE SEEN IN YOURSELF THAT YOU DON'T LIKE AND WANT TO CHANGE. ANYTHING THAT YOU CHANGED JUST TO PLEASE HER WOULDN'T HAVE LAST LONG ANYWAY BECAUSE IT WASN'T YOU BEING YOURSELF. MAYBE YOU RELATIONSHIP HAS RUN IT'S COURSE AND YOU SEEING YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE MAY HAVE BEEN WHAT YOU HAD TO LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF AND MAYBE YOU COULD HAVE ONLY LEARNED THESE THING IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. SO AT THIS POINT JUST BE YOU AND WHATEVER HAPPENS

Answer 7

Continue improving, she'll see. You cannot give up, you have to allow her some time and space. Once she sees that spark that was there before, she'll be there.

Answer 8

Prove her..everyday...!
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