Follow up: I took my BF's cell by "accident" because I was supicious?

Question

Of course I read all texts, and found SEVERAL reasons 2 prove he's cheating on me. I need to look at the pics later, but I basically know everything I need to know to call it quits. When he says (the inevitable) "Why'd you look in my phone anyway?" OR "If you hadnt looked, you would've never known."OR"If you trusted me, you wouldnt have looked through my phone." OR "Those girls don't mean anything to me... I love you & I'm sorry. It wont happen again." OR "I can explain everything." what do I say? Now-- he called frantically this morning telling me to turn off the phone ASAP so all his calls go to voicemail, but of course he just wanted it off so I wouldnt look in it. I could hear the "I f*ucked up BIG" in his voice. He called repeatedly from his bros phone to see if it went straight to voicemail, & it didnt so he called my cell to ask why I still had it on. He sounded really frantic. We've never had trust issues b/t us, but my gut said to check things out & I'm glad I did. What next?

Answer 1

Do you live with him? I hope not.
SILENCE IS GOLDEN. Yes, you already have all info that you need. If you don't want to hear the standard excuses then simply don't give him a chance to give them to you. Simply drop his phone off somwhere where you know he'll get it and don't answer his calls. He'll get the message.
Give him time to think things out and you do the same. Be confident and strong! At some point if you wish to talk to him.. let him do all the talking.
Personally, I've given "another chance" before but not before I saw sincere remorse and a lot of counseling.
If this is a new relationship then I suggest you get rid of him fast.

Answer 2

you can ask why it was so important to turn off the phone. i understand that the calls will go directly to voicemail, but it would do that anyway even if the phone was still on. it would just take a little longer in order for the rings to go through first. if he tells you to turn it off because he doesn't want the ringtone to bother you, you can say you don't mind. if he really doesn't have anything to hide, he will just leave it at that. however if he does have something secret going on, he will continue to ask you to do as he says with the cell phone. most important though, talk with him about what's going on. good luck.

Answer 3

Well first of all ,men are dogs and we all know it. If you really don't want to be with him because of the whole phone thing , then leave him alone ,because right now his main objective is damage control. But if you love him ,talk it out and see where you guys can go from here if you are willing to forgive and forget. Just know that things will never be the same because he won't trust you and you will never trust him completely again.

Answer 4

Do you really need to ask?.....I mean....you've caught him red handed and given the chance I'm sure he would make something up to try to get you to believe him. If it was me...I would give him his phone back and tell him to have a great life. Then go to the nearest hospital and have yourself checked. You may have never had trust issues before, but now that you know, do you know how long he has been messing around?....Take care of yourself first, he obviously didn't care enough to. Walk away a smarter woman and stand proud. You dont deserve that kind of treatment. Good Luck !!

Merry Christmas !!!

Answer 5

Well first of all if he was innocent there would be nothing for you to find out. The main part of a realtionship is trust and if he has to hide something from you then it is not so innocent. For some reason your gut told you to look and you found out that he has not been honest. End it. Everybody deserves honesty. What if you don't end it? Are you always going to be wondering?? Is that how you want to live?

Answer 6

Break it off. You don't need to answer any of those dumb comments listed above. Why,if, i love you. B.S. If there was any respect this would never have happened in the first place. If ou even consider falling for any of the lame lines he tells you, remember. What is he saying to the other girls hes seeing. Probably the same exact thing. Don't let yourself get reeled back in. I grantee this will happen again.

Answer 7

If he responds in any of those ways to you, just say "there was a time when I did trust you. If I didn't you wouldn't have had the opportunity to do the things it is obvious that you did. However, your behaviour gave me reason to doubt you. It's a good thing too or I would never have known what a loser I was with." Then dump his ***.

Answer 8

I would look into anything else that is on the phone like pics,voicemail messages that sort thing and then confront him about it you will be able to tell if he is lieing or trying to cover things up. any sign of him cheating dump him and leave him

Answer 9

First it was wrong to shank his phone.... there are other ways... but hey give him his phone back and walk away better to let lieing dogs lay.... If you have proof he cheated on you then he has no respect for you or your relationship..... Tell him you made the bed so now you sleep in it and move on... No use dwelling on things that can not be changed... Find you another man have fun.

Answer 10

Let him know why you're breaking up with him, that he can't be trusted. That you don't feel like sharing him with other women, unknowingly or otherwise!

"Why'd you look in my phone anyway?" I looked because of my women's intuition and it proved to be right on. Don't try turning this around on me, you're the guilty party here.

Just for future reference if you also have a cell, send those mesages and pictures to your cell or to an email account of yours just in case, you never know.