I really don't know how to feel. I have 3 siblings that were adopted and I love them to death.. but their parents are dead beats. But do you think parents should be able to change their mind no matter how late in life? I think if they are capable they should have that right.
2006-12-06 06:03:54 · 15 answers · asked by Delilah_Valentine 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No I don't think so. Think of it from the child's point of view.... They have a loving, caring home and because some "stranger" has a change of heart, they are ripped from their home, that's wrong! Now look at it from the adoptive parent's view...... They have loved and cared for this child for some time now, as if they were their own, now the have to loose him/her to someone who more then likely won't take as good care of them as they could and would. And the anxiety on both sides from missing each other.
2006-12-06 06:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I do not believe that the birth parents have the right to change their mind later on in life. Now once a child is 18 and the adoptive parents have always been honest with the adopted child and the child/grown person wants to meet their birth parents, then yes they should have that right. But to give your baby up for adoption and 5 years down the line say I want my baby back is not right. You signed those rights away!
2006-12-06 06:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when a person makes the choice to give up a child that should be it! I was adopted and was very lucky to have wonderful parents. My birth mother found me 5 years ago. I was not looking for her so it felt like she was overstepping her place. After all she is NOT my mother. My mother is the one that loves me no matter what, took care of me when I was sick and raised me to be the woman I am today. My mother and I went to meet my birth mother. She is a nice lady but she is just not my mother. I am grateful that she loved me enough to give me up! Long story short...if you give up your child that should be the end of it. If there is a reunion it should be done through an agency so that it is mutual on both parts. When I was 8 or 9 if my birth mom came into my life to try to take me it would have been like I was kidnapped!!!!!
2006-12-06 06:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by brandi from texas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, creating a child doesnt make you a parent. If the parent wants to have a relationship then its up to the child and the family that adopted. Whats best for the child?
2006-12-06 07:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Adopted or birth, parents are parents. Giving birth doesn't make you a parent.
Remember this: People who choose to adopt a child could give the child back!
2006-12-06 06:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by mkb80 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon thoroughly on the region. Open adoptions (adoptions wherein infants proceed to be in touch with delivery mothers and fathers) would be super in some circumstances. I actual have accompanied brothers and sisters - only one had touch along with her delivery relatives from the get bypass. For her it grow to be super. She knew her relatives cared approximately her and that they'd address insecurities as they arose. I actual have 2 different sisters who got here upon their mothers and fathers as adults. For one, it grow to be an extremely pleasurable, happy adventure. For the different it grow to be painful. i think of the main attention while thinking open adoption is how all events experience approximately it. If the delivery relatives, the adoptive relatives and the newborn (in the event that they're sufficiently previous to appreciate what's happening) would be open, talk and exhibit fears and concerns formerly, then super. in the event that they are in a position to't even get alongside by way of fact one or the different is jealous, offended or bitter - this isn't any longer a sturdy determination for all and sundry. desire that facilitates!
2016-10-14 03:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by balick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, once parental rights have been terminated / relinquished...etc. They should not have the right to change their minds...if done properly, then counceling should have been done and meetings with attorneys and such to make sure that the parents knew what they were getting into! Sorry, I am sure this isn't what you wanted to hear...but from where I stand it's just my opinion. Why don't you try to contact your siblings and have a relationship that way!
2006-12-06 07:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no because it is unfair on the child to be moved around just because mum has changed her mind. she has 9 months to think about it so thats enough time really. im sure she cud have contact if it was her decision to give the child up. and what if they did get the child back and then changed their minds AGAIN and want to give him/her back. not fair on adoptive parents either who has probably waited a long time to have a child, to have it taken away would crush them
2006-12-06 06:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, never it is not good to take a child out of the adoptive home attachments have been formed and the adoptive parents are the parents now
2006-12-06 06:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, no. My birth parents didn't even know me until I was in my thirties...but there are no hard feelings. I understand the whys of why I was given up...sometimes it is for the child's best interest and survival.
2006-12-06 06:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by KoKo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋