Please tell me if it is ok!! i am getting married in feb, i am Enlisted active Reserves Air Force and he is Active duty Army officer.....
2006-12-06 06:01:30 · 15 answers · asked by amy m 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
i am not ACTIVE DUTY i am Active Reserves
2006-12-06 06:07:34 · update #1
Actually, I know of a number of Officer/Enlisted spouses. By letter of reg, it's questionable if you met each other while in the service. If you met each other prior to it, then there is no problem. As your Air Force, i recommend talking to your first shirt. Other than that, I wish you a happy wepping, and a Merry Christmas
2006-12-06 14:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS PROHIBITED AND WRONG! Per AR 600-20, para 4-14 (c) sub 2 states, "Certain types of relationships between officers and enlisted personnel are prohibited. Prohibited relationships include: (2) Dating, shared living accomodations other than those dictated by operational requirements, and intimate or sexual relationships, between officers and enlisted personnel." The regulation goes on to state that if the relationship is not known and results in marriage, the marriage is legal, HOWEVER, both commands of the effected servicepersons may take action and again I quote, "When evidence of fraternization between an officer and enlisted member prior to their marriage exists, their marriage does NOT preclude appropriate command action..." This whole "awww isn't that sweet attitude" is poppycock and as an officer he should know better. As an officer he is a leader and expected to lead by example. So the standard he has just set is "ignoring regulations and orders is alright as long as you are in love or because your heart says so." He should be ashamed of himself - officers used to live by the motto 'One Standard - No Exception'. Apparently, in his case, this does not apply. He will reap what he sows - and trust me, his Soldiers are watching him. I hope he enjoys his command after they get wind of this; he is in for a rough ride and a rash of fraternization problems. Exactly what is he supposed to say to his First Sergeant if Top gets caught sleeping with a Soldier?? What do you think the First Sergeant is going to say to him? Got a good idea, "But sir, how can you bust me - you MARRIED an enlisted person!" How does your fiance plan to stop a Platoon Sergeant from advancing a lower enlisted faster than the others because they are involved? How can he possibly enforce a rule he is breaking? You, I can excuse. Him? This has been drilled into his head since his initial commissioning course, OBC and his required Ethics courses. Apparently, he was sleeping. What happened to doing the "Hard Right"? Guess that's why they call it "hard." Too bad. I linked the regulation below if you want to verify.
P.S. If you check 4-14 paragraph (a) it makes it clear that this regulation applies to ALL SERVICES, ALL COMPONENTS and Guard and Reserves alike. Also note, this regulation says NOTHING about it only being wrong if you and him are in the same chain of command. That is a myth - read the regulation.
2006-12-06 21:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by sofgrant 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
in the British forces, this is permitted, but not encouraged. You may have some difficulties when attending official receptions in the Officer's Mess, if uniform is required. But it is LEGAL so it would be best to consult with your Commanding Officers to avoid embarrassment at functions.
2006-12-06 14:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you know him before you enlisted, it counts as a prior relationship, and since you are in different branches and he is not technically in your chain of command, it is fine. If anyone says anything just say you knew him before you were in the service, then it counts as prior relationship and who cares.
2006-12-06 14:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jon C 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why wouldn't it be legal, you can marry anyone you want. Either the Army or the Air Force tells you who to marry and who not. Congratulations!
2006-12-06 14:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by naddel 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes as long as your not in the same chain of command it is. Since your noteven in the same brach of service i fail to see the problem. Please consult your legal office they should be able to answer any questions you should have.
2006-12-06 14:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by jawbertsc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
as long as you knew each other before one of you went in, it's fine.
It is less of an issue overall as you are in different Branches, and will never be withinthe same chain of command.
2006-12-06 14:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it's legal, it's only fraternization if your spouse is in your direct chain of command, he's an officer right, ask him
2006-12-06 15:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Scorpio11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legal yes. Will you see much of each other being in different services, proably not.
2006-12-06 14:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, perfectly legal. You are both opposite sexes right?
2006-12-06 14:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Smitty Carmichael 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋