I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months on and off.Most of the time we break up and make up the same day and try to get over it.But for that last couple of months it's been getting harder.We fight and break up and we continue to talk as friends but we still fight.He's my first love,I've done everything with him,sexually.Even things that I said I would never do.When I think about moving on it hurts me to think of him with another girl and not being with me.But lately our realtionship hasn't been that good,it seems like all we do is fight and insult eachother.I dont feel like he loves me anymore or atleast not like he use to.Sometimes I want to just let go and forget about him and move on but it's so hard.He's not only my ex-boyfriend but also my best friend.Should I move on or try to work things out again for the 10 million time?I really do love him.I've asked him if he's just tired of us being together and he says no.I always worry about him cheating on me.How do I find out if he is?
2006-12-06 05:59:38 · 5 answers · asked by Lina S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
2006-12-06 06:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too much drama...after one break-up/reuniting that would be IT for me...why play games and break up and get back together over and over? To me, that just says you two are not a good match and hanging on because it's convenient, and perhaps because the sex is nice.
Do what you want...but this isn't a healthy relationship and it has no future...this life is too short to trap yourself with a poor match, when there is so much more to Life...
2006-12-06 06:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 03:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by balick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way around this. First loves are the hardest to get over. What you should try to do is salvage the friendship. Focus on you and what you need to do to improve on you and your life. There will be someone else who will be just for you.
2006-12-06 06:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have no trust, and ur relationship isnt healthy, you need to move on
2006-12-06 06:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋