i am in love with this guy who is really sweet and we have been friends forever.. but he cant seem to get his life on track. he'd rather stay at home and do whatever he dose (i donno what ) then come to school and make somthing of himself....
he has a ton of dreams, but he woulnt do anything about them. he is wasting all his potential.
i want to show him that his life could be so much more. but he just dosnt care.. i am hopless, or rather he is hopeless. i dont know what to do. should i just get over him or what???
2006-12-06 05:51:43 · 27 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does this guy happen to know how much you care and your feelings towards him??? Maybe he feels as if no one out there really cares what he does in his life. Maybe he just don't have anything set as a goal, and possibly nothing to even motivate him. Everyone has to have some kind of inspiration, even if it is just something small and stupid, or even ridicules. I have been in this guys shoes before, and it was just because I didn't have anything to motivate me or inspire me enough to want to change and do better for myself. I ended up meeting a guy with kids, became pregnant myself and, that's when it dawned on me how important I actually was, and I wanted to better myself for the family I am trying to raise. What I am trying to say is... if he don't know how you or anyone else feels, and he has nothing to inspire him and motivate him then, he isn't going to want to change all on his own. Tell him how you feel truly and honestly, and tell him that you are there to help him any way that you can and, if you can't help him, you can help him find the help that he needs. I hope all goes well for you and your "dream" guy. If all else fails.... then yeah... try to get over him, you don't need people that don't want to better themselves to drag you down with them. You sound very bright and intelligent.... just remember... there are plenty of other guys out there, if everything you try is hopeless.
2006-12-06 06:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by kimmysue1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find a guy that you will not have show him what his life could be. Let him sit at home sucking down potato chips playing xbox in his 2 day old underpants and you move on with your life. People will use excuses as long as you allow them to and you sticking around is a good enough excuse for him to feel as if he doesnt have to get up off his *** and live his life as long as your there feeling bad for him
2006-12-06 13:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Opinion: First and foremost you shouldn't wish to have any type of relationship with no one who isn't above or at least on your level. Because how can he help you with where you're trying to go? He can't. If you're in school trying to pursue your dream of becoming a lawyer, you should be interested in lawyers. I'm not saying he isn't a great guy, it's just you have to focus on YOU. Have you ever heard the saying: "To succeed you must look around and find those who are succeeding."
2006-12-06 14:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by niecytonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he isn't a loser just lazy. you need to move on though because you don't want to be with someone who isn't even trying to do anything with his life or even trying to get an education.u deserve better than that so why even settle for less. think about it like this: if everytime you two go out and you are always paying for food, paying to get in the movies, paying for whatever, who is reaping the benefits from it? How is he gonna treat you like you need to be treated if he is broke and you are always flipping the bill?
2006-12-06 13:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was somewhat skeptical about what your definition of loser would be but id say u got it right this time anyways. my brother in law has younger brothers like this. there is nothing you can do sadly cause he and i have tried everything from talking about college and how much more success-full you are going to school and i just doesn't work its so sad. take this advice get over him. he has to realize these things on his own. there are lots of guys out there that work hard to be good men and make something of themselves. give the rest of us a chance. seriously.
2006-12-06 13:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ben S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that life is just job and money.some have great jobs,others have ordinary.some earn big money,others earn just enough.but love,if it is true,is about spiritual connectivity with an individual which,if real,should last for the lifetime.worst case scenario can be that ur love does things which are antisocial.other than this,just stick with ur guy.nothing else but this individual will give u happiness in life.that is a surity.
2006-12-06 13:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by luckvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. You can't save or rescue him or show him some brilliant new life so he'll change into this shining new man you can be proud of. He choose to be a loser, and you're choosing to say you're in love. The only thing you can change is yourself.
2006-12-06 13:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel so strongly dont jsut get over him
tell him how you feel
both ways on how you think he can go so far
have other firends and famlit enoucourage him as well
tell him that you are feling for him more than friends maybbe he likes you just as much or more
good luck
2006-12-06 13:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by starrynights1020@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, leave him and move on... You don't want to be with someone with no motivation and personal growth... There are many successful guys out there...
Imagine staying with someone like this...he'll never take you out because he has no money, you'll always been worried about money, no vacations, nice gifts, your life is going to be a living hell...worst part is you'll probably end up supporting him...
Move on...and find someone else...
Good luck!!!!
2006-12-06 14:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has no ambition now, chances are he won't later in life. Get over him and let him be a loser alone. Remember, misery loves company, and he'll only bring you down.
2006-12-06 13:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋