Well me and my girl have been togheter for a year and two months now. At times we have bad times, but mostly i say we have good times. The thing is that i kind of lost that feeling you get when you fall/are in love with someone.
Another problem is that at times it feels like we are just friends and not boyfriend or girlfriend.
There are times where we have almost cheated at eachother and because of this i can't trust her.
I do love her and well she tells me she loves me...
What should I do?
2006-12-06 05:39:28 · 21 answers · asked by sinofblood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just act like y'all did when you first started dating. Go to some of the places y'all first went together then ask, " Do you remember when we went here?" It will spark some old memories and then it will rekindle the love.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-06 05:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 21:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that the "high" you had when you first started going out was a chemical reaction in your body and it has now leveled out to how you really are. Npt much can be done to change this, but you can try to be thoughtful and surprise each other with kindnesses and gifts to keep the romance fresh.
The other thing is to realize that if you feel youcan't trust her, then there may be other underlying issues that should be addressed.
I suggest talking to her to try to clear this up and if you can't do that, then counseling.
Better to go to counseling now and realize that you won't be able to work out your differences, than after being married, possibly with kids, etc.
good luck
2006-12-06 05:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have fallen out of love with her... then I guess there is not much hope. Have you tried talking to her about this? Without pointing fingers???
It seems my boyfriend and myself are almost having the same problems. I feel distant from him because he never trys to win my love anymore. Its almost like we are friends to. But see... he dont run after me anymore. Like he did when we first started dating. No romantic things... no sweet out of the blue kinda things... See when I try and talk to him about it he blows up because he thinks Im putting all the blame on him. You have to be understanding to each other feelings. Girls need things guys dont think about, guys need things that girls wont give unless they get what they want.
Its like a farm you have to work at it everyday... Otherwise... it kinda just falls apart. Dont give up hope. AND DONT CHEAT ON HER! Why would you want to put someone through that kinda heart break? huh? Be strong. Be a man!
2006-12-06 05:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit and have a real conversation. Don't hide nothing. Ask her how she really feels. I get into conversations a lot like this even from the very beginning of the relationship and I think that's why we're still going strong after 15 months tomorrow.
2006-12-06 05:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your trust for one another is questioned it is difficult to maintain a healthy relationship but it is not impossible. It all depends how hard you are willing to work for it. Communication is also very important at this point. You really need to sit down with her and air out all your issues with one another.
You also say you love her but you've fallen out of love with her. That along with the trust issues will make it very difficult to save the relationship. Like I said, I would talk with her and see how you feel once both of you let everything out.
2006-12-06 05:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call this love? So you have bad times, you almost cheat on each other, you have no trust and your feelings are more platonic. Sorry-- what about this do you want to "save"? You should have broken up long before either one of you cheated. This can't be fixed.
2006-12-06 05:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her now, you never will!! Trust is a big issue, TRUST ME ON THAT! Love is not about "feelings" it's about sacrafice and commitment. If you base your love for her upon feelings, they will only last so long. It is said that after 1 year, that felling begins to deminish and stats are true from the way it sounds. If you love her, stick with it through thick and thin. DONT TRUST YOUR LOVE ON FEELINGS. this will always fail you.
2006-12-06 05:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Flaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, talk about it!!! to her!
Ask her to show you a little more love, so you have an easier time. Also tell her that you love her a lot, just have a hart time keeping that feeling when you were dating. She might not understand, think of many ways to let her know.
You BOTH have to want to keep the relationship to make it work, talk about that too. Best of Luck.
2006-12-06 05:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to be honest with yourselves and each other. You need to sit down and have a long conversation about your relationship and the futture you each want. That will help you find out if the future you both want involves the other. This is hard thing to do, but if you both love each other your future will remain as one.
2006-12-06 05:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋