the other day i ask a question if there was a way to find out if you slept with someone without asking the girl i thought i slept with cuz we were both drunk and i couldnt remember a thing from the nite before but did woke up in her bed with just a boxer on..but anyways the recap to this story is that i found out today that we did, and i ask her if she was sure about it and she said yes. and whats messed up about it is that im dating one of her friends, not girlfriends or anything just seeing her.so then im just sitting there this morning while were having breakfast and the only thing this girl said was that how i feel about it and to be honest i dont even know exactly what happen.. i know we went to party got wasted to fast, left to go to a bar and drank a little more, but then after that cant really remember what happen, all i know is that i woke up with just a boxer and her with a t-shirt n an underwear. SO MY QUESTION IS HOW DO YOU HANDLE SOMETHING LIKE THIS. is she lying or what
2006-12-06 05:33:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quit drinking
2006-12-06 05:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My thought is, if you two did have sex, why would you have bothered to put clothes on afterward? You say both of you were in sleeping type attire when you awoke...why?
I would question her honesty in that area...just seems odd...
Either way, learn the lesson. Know what your drinking limit is and don't cross that line. Getting wasted and not remembering your behavior is no excuse for said behavior. What if you had wrecked your car and killed someone? What if you'd slept with a girl that had an STD?
Those are just 2 examples of what COULD have happened that night...while you were drunk and not remembering.
Think about it..as for how to handle what DID happen? Until you know for sure, there's nothing to handle...
2006-12-06 05:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who would lie about something like that? Unless she likes you. I think you did have sex with her and blacked out. Hey, we all black out when we knock back too much Grandpa's cough syrup. Tell her the truth that you don't remember and that you were drunk. That is how you feel right? Girls tend to be a little more emo about being intimate with someone that is probably why she asked "how do you feel..?" I would say sorry and stop dating her friend. That's just me..too many fishies in the sea. If you like her friend and won't stop dating her that will complicate their friendship especially if you were with the "drunk girl" while you were dating the friend.
2006-12-06 05:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Noneyabusiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley you will never have a way of knowing if she's lying or not. I think that the best thing you can do is.....nothing. Things happen. If you are worried about the girl you are seeing finding out then just tell her. It would be better coming from you than someone else, but otherwise I wouldn't worry too much about it.
2006-12-06 05:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i this is a problem but what hap pend hap pend all you have to do know is go say sorry to the one that you are dating because i now that you hurt ed her the reason i think that is going to hurt her is because that hap-pend to me to i had a boyfriend and he did the same thing to me but the worst part about it is the he got her pregnant so he was going to become a father the reason why it hurt ed me the most was because he did not tell me the truth but lie to me in my face all these years so what you have to do is tell the one that you are dating what happened before you go to the second step.
PS could you please vote me as best answer because I'm trying to go to the second level
2006-12-06 05:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by know eveything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be lying but you'll never find out because she'll take it to her grave. You need to curb your drinking if you can't remember anything. What about contracting something, how about being photographed or videotaped? You are taking big risks with your life.
2006-12-06 05:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think the next step is for her to tell you she is pregnant and you are the father of the baby. Now, don't you think you should grow up a little and take some responsibility for your actions and stop getting "wasted"?? Or are you ready to step up and be a father or are you not afraid of AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes or any other STD?
2006-12-06 05:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did it because why would a girl lie about something like that. Obviously you are not as commited to your girl as you say you are. So grow up and be a real man. and not sleep with random girls ... that is how STD's are translated you know.
2006-12-06 05:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably lying because she wants attention and likes you! Ignore it. But maybe this will be a lesson for you to NOT do this again just incase you did sleep with her.
2006-12-06 05:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by holls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is probally telling the truth so the lesson here is don't get so drunk you don't remember!
2006-12-06 05:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋