So my bf and i have been together for about a year now and i have moved with him because of his promotion in new york. I love him to death and we will get married one day but now at the new place where he is working there is this girl that has a huge thing for him and wont leave him alone. She calls at all hours of the night and fallows us where we go out. He has told her to leave him alone multiple times many when i am there with him and i dont know what to do.HELP!
2006-12-06 04:49:56 · 30 answers · asked by katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give her a taste of your blade,
i have a warhammer, if thats any use
2006-12-06 04:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Thor the Mighty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reality check how did this girl get his number they don't publicize
that kind of stuff these days and to move in with him without a ring you are being set up for failure if he really is that crazy about you like you say he would have proposed or did the court house thing Hello
There are police his supervisor the company owner who can put a stop to the foolishness so I would have to ask the question what is he telling her when they are at work Open your eyes and close your heart for a minute really what is it telling you RED FLAG!!!!!!
the two either had sex that could be the bond that you see or she is just really crazy and is a stalker either way sit back and really start to see things for what they really are since she is always following you ask her yourself what happened before you got there and why she can't just leave him alone.
Before you get upset let her talk and listen let her do all the talking because if she is lying she will tell on herself and if she is not you at least know what you are dealing with as far as the man you are dating.
2006-12-06 12:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by evan g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use intimidation, depending on wether she is truly a nut or not cause you know its not the size its how crazy they are when it comes to physical confrontation, I'd say in person go up to her and let her know how you feel and what it will lead to with intense tone and looks and looking her in the eye, if its not generally your nature it will be hard but it might work or have someone else give her the message I mean dont let this get out of hand if she is doing anything illegal by the laws standards as far as stalking then file a report so when something hopefully not but does get out of hand you'll be backed up w/proof yes def file report about her so when something happens it wont just be her word against yours and again tell her in person say look were doing this and I would appreciate it if you would respect that and while all three of you are there ask her, what are you basing this on? Is he leading you on? Is there something you dont know about that she is holding on to or wanting to persue I mean it seams pretty strange she would be so persistant if theres nothing there, find that out first, and make a decision, I mean thats just really ballsy to follow you around and call how did she get the new # I mean I hope not but I wonder what goes on at work, he should not talk to her at all not at all, and also tell someone at work about this why is he not doing his end of this what he can do atleast that would show he truly doesnt want it or have a part in it, he he doesnt after you ask I would wonder, good Luck Kim
2006-12-06 13:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kimbur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was being funny, I'd say kick her a**. But on a serious note, call the police and report her for harrassment. Especially if your boyfriend doesn't even want her around. You said he tells her to go away when you are with him? What about when you're not? Just get the police involved, only because it seems the best way to handle a stalker. Good Luck!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-06 12:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously get a restraining order on the psycho. But if she’s as crazy as she sounds, I don’t think it would do much good. Oh and don’t kick her *** either because you don’t know what crazy psycho people are capable of doing. You’re BF should take this seriously as well as you. Maybe get the employers and polices involve if that’s the only way to get her to leave you guys alone. But she sounds crazy and obsess, if I were you don’t approach her and confront her alone (or at all, let your BF do it) because she may go crazy on you, remember to her you’re the one standing in the way of her being with him.
Good Luck and Stay SAFE!
2006-12-06 12:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by UnknownJaneDoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. He appears to be handling it on his own. If he really loves you he will not give her a second thought, and if you have to worry that much about him making the right decision then he is not worth being with. Trust is a big part of a relationship as is communication. Talk to him and ask how he feels about this woman. If he says that he is not interested then take him at his word until he proves otherwise.
2006-12-06 12:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one because he's already told her in front of you. Change your phone number and let everyone know that the lady is crazy. I don't know I want to kick her but I don't know that it would change anything. She works with him so you cant file a restraining order but maybe you could for the calls she makes. Just so its down on file or whatever. Let her boss know that she is abusing your phone number.
2006-12-06 12:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
restraining order for stalking or something...I'd call the police or an attorney for the right advise. If you kick her @ss you could end up in jail and she'd have full reign on him...Do they work in the same place? If so , then it's an HR issue. I hope it gets worked out soon. I'd be upset too.
2006-12-06 12:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to do anything. He's supposed to handle this. And just saying "leave me alone" isn't going to be enough.
How did she get your number in the first place? Sounds like buddy had a thing with this girl before you moved in.
2006-12-06 12:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not really anything you can do, except to keep being a good girlfriend to him. I doubt he likes anyone so psycho as that chick. If he were going to cheat on you, he would have done it by now I think. Just take good care of him and I'm almost certain you have nothing to worry about. Have a nice day!
2006-12-06 12:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well next time she calls tell her to back off. There are more guys out there and she has a chance with one, but your guy is taken. If she keeps hanging around the call the police!
2006-12-06 12:53:29 · answer #11 · answered by spud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋