i'll b turning 18 in about a year in 2008, i hate living w/ my mother and my brother kenny they r always getting on my nerves i just got a job and i did it cuz i thought tht maybe just maybe it would make my mother for once proud of me but now i'm starting 2 wonder if tht will ever happen...ppl r always saying tht her and i r really close but the truth is tht we're so far apart 4rm another tht it's really sad...:( she doesn't knw anything about me she thinks tht she knws everything but she doesn't even knw tht i still do luv my ex and tht he was my 1st luv we never did anything like tht but we had fun 2gether and we told another everything about ourselves...anyways the reason tht i can't decide if i should move out is cuz i'm tired of doing everything @ my house i clean the house, work, take care of 4 pets, and not 2 mention i also go 2 skool...i'm the 1st between my brother,18, and i, 16, 2 get a job yet my mother still acts like i don't do anything when every pd i give her half my ck
2006-12-06 04:31:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stay, save your money and buy a house/condo for youself. Everyone argues. Respect her and keep your life separate. Finish your school and have fun. I moved out at age 19 and its hard man. Bills every month out the window.
2006-12-06 04:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Maria K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not considering a college education and want to go out and work do so... It will cost money to live out of your own and you still will have to do cleaning, cooking. etc...
If you find there is no appreciation for your help at home, it is time for you and MOm to sit down and talk.
You need to quit suppressing these feeling that you are having and be truthful with her....
If she has a drug or alcohol problem, your best bet would be to go to Alateen as she is obviously having a negative effect on you.
It is important to be able to talk and trust a Mom, but that doesn't mean she needs to know about every little thing going on in your head,. That is why we have friends....
The fact that she doesn't know you as well as she thinks she does, tells me there is a definite wall between you two. You both have ownership here...
If you are not willing to patch things up or even attempt to , then the wall will only get bigger..
Being a good role model for your siblings is important and if you are really trying and there is not compliance from your Mom, then you have to do what is necessary to get on with your life..
Get some training of some sort, so that you can stand on your two feet.
There are lots of courses out there especially nursing that could set you up ini a good job for the rest of your life...
If you can put up with living at home for a couple more years, then do so, get your education and get on with your life......
You have to change your attitude.. do something about this problem with Mom... stop complaining and take avction to correct it , if possible
2006-12-06 04:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and moved out when I was 18. was it easy? hell no, but I can come and go as I please and I have a place I can call my own. On the flip side, I have to make sure all the bills are paid because my parents are not there to pick up my slack like they used to. I do my own chores, go to school full time, don't sleep much. But if I had to do it all over again I would. This experience has been teaching me more lessons than living with my parents ever did. You can do it if you really want to, plus you will earn the respect of people around you.
2006-12-06 04:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by SphinxEyez999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 days is the norm. Having toddlers has no concerning housing guidelines or evictions. virtually each and anybody has a minimum of one toddler at residing house, that is going to not result the house proprietor in any respect. It actually shouldn't negate their rights to their resources. when you're in CA you ought to be giving 60 days word in case you rented over 13 months. that is a sparkling regulation, this 365 days, and some landlords gained't understand it. CA is the in elementary words 60 day state that i comprehend of. that is going to not take you a "few months" to hit upon a sparkling residing house, there bill be lots obtainable to you, the condo markert is heavy as we talk with this kind of vast quantity of human beings renting their houses to assist make loan funds.
2016-11-30 05:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would say, first make sure you can make it on your own. If you think you can make it on your own, move out. If you dont, sit your mom down and tell her how you feel, nine times outta ten she doesnt even realize how you feel. I was in a similar situation, but after talking to my parents, things changed. By the way, at 16 everyones siblings get on their nerves.
2006-12-06 04:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by lil_angel_6172003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some friends to be your roommates and get your own apartment together so you can share with paying the bills. You'll be alright. Just don't lose your job and stay in school.
2006-12-06 04:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you should move, you should make sure you have enough money to pay our bills once you move out. As glamarous as being on your own and having your own place sounds, it comes with a huge responsibility. Because if you're aren't able to make it on your own, you may end up back at your moms.
2006-12-06 04:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋