I am a jail minister and find myself often in court rooms with inmates I have worked with. I see parents defending their children with no respect for authority.Recently a mother, mad at a police officer who had wrote her son a speeding ticket claiming that the old truck he was driving could not possibly go that fast.I had seen this boy in jail bragging how fast he could drive.All she accomplished that day was to teach her son to lie to authority. And yet they want their children to respect them.I am not talking about the court room only, I am talking about the respect due in the home, church, school,and goverment, etc.. What can we do to help our children ?
2006-12-06 04:24:15 · 11 answers · asked by don_steele54 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is what we call LOVE. Specially if the parents of the child belongs to an influential group of society. Very few righteous parents would even surrender their erring child to the authority and will really use all their power to keep them from being punished for the crime they have committed. And they usually call it love and loyalty.
As a Jail minister. On incidents like that, do you take the time to minister the parents too or just the offenders? How about holding a seminar on offending minors with their parents emphasizing how unhealthy it could be if your sense of love and loyalty within the family is misused or abused?
2006-12-06 04:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the United States, teaching children to respect authority is sorely lacking. I know as a parent, when my children were in school, there was very little respect for anyone in evidence.
I think, though, that the question should be "Do we teach our children to be personally accountable?" Parents make the mistake of getting their children out of all of the trouble the children get into, instead of teaching their children that every action has a consequence, either for good or bad. I made sure that my children learned that lesson well - if they did something in school (or elsewhere), they were held accountable for their actions. They learned soon enough.
2006-12-06 12:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents should start when they are very young. “You must inculcate [God’s commandments] in your son and speak of them when you sit in your house and when you walk on the road and when you lie down and when you get up.”—Deuteronomy 6:7.
Many parents are worried about raising their children in a world filled with unwholesome influences. Considering the following advice can help: “Train up a boy according to the way for him; even when he grows old he will not turn aside from it.”
As children grow older, they need “the way,” a set of standards to meet. More and more specialists have come to realize the importance of providing beneficial rules for children. Wise parental standards give children a feeling of security. In addition:
“The rod and reproof are what give wisdom; but a boy let on the loose will be causing his mother shame.The rod” refers to parental authority that must be applied lovingly to prevent children from going astray. Wielding such authority does not involve abusing the child in any way. The counsel to parents is: “Do not be exasperating your children, so that they do not become downhearted.”
2006-12-06 12:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, you must have respect for authority and yourself. Then you must accept nothing less from your children and provide a strong example. Children must be taught to accept responsibility for their actions.
Sadly, we have developed a culture of entitlement - I should be able to drive however I want, I should get to have that TV I can't afford, The authorities should bend the rules for me. Once we show kids how they actually have to work for things, they will understand the importance of respecting authority.
2006-12-06 12:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show respect for authority. Not only does God tell us to obey the laws of the land, but we need to respect and obey God.
Pray for your children, show them by example and the rest will follow.
At least your children and your children's children will be raised with respect.
2006-12-06 12:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
By example.
You can not directly teach respect - as parents you can only show respect and hope your children follow your example.
~ Eric Putkonen
2006-12-06 12:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bust some @$$.
If your child does not respect you, he will never respect anyone, including him/herself.
If I was disrespectful to my parents, I got my rear-end busted. Thus I respect them and have never been near a police car or jail cell.
My kids will respect me or they'll all have tan behinds!
2006-12-06 12:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by m_thurson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a living example for them. Don't do anything that you don't want them doing. It is also important to instill in them that respect is mutual. In this case, how will officers have respect for you if you do not respect them?
2006-12-06 12:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by The Pope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the Family has some great material on this. So does FamilyLife Today.
2006-12-06 13:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by 2 know Him & 2 Make Him known 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By respecting your spouse.
2006-12-06 12:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋