I am a 24 year old male that just graduated from law school. When I was 19 years old I was harshly rejected from my first and only ladyfriend. Since then I have not had a relationship or any other friendships with females. I am still attracted to women because of my biological makeup. Nevertheless, I desire no relationship ever again because I refuse to allow my heart to be taken and misused again.
Please feel free to comment.
2006-12-06 04:23:13 · 21 answers · asked by wayne b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd like to give you a hug. And to make u feel better. Also to prove there are good woman in the world like me.
2006-12-06 04:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry so much. You are young and smart and have plenty of time to find MRS. RIGHT. She's out there waiting for you. Just stop worring. You're comment about still be attracted to women because of you're biological makeup, makes me question what you're really thinking. The heart is a funny thing, once hurt it can take awhile to heal. If you know that you're not guy, then take this time to further you're career. If you think that the reason you haven't had a realationship is because part of you is trying to push down other feelings, you may want to seek counceling. Either way, that never hurts. Good luck!
2006-12-06 12:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by dreamteam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont experience rejection you will never appreciate acceptance. To know love you gotta suffer for it, sometimes. Its hard, i was you once, and i realized that is just part of life, im very careful n i dont rush into things. Get to people, date and go slow, dont ever rush, think before you speak, and try to control your heart over your brain, You are young, smart and full of life enjoy and im sure any girl in their right mind wont do you harm. i would star by maybe talking onliine with girls, just to get you confortable, also at work make friend with girls, and then go to the second step, dating, then go on from there, if you need any more help let me know ill help you out with some other tips!! Good luck sweety!
2006-12-06 12:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have just been hurt and need time to heal think about it wgat will make you happy being alone for the rest of ur life or spending it with someone special there is always a consequence and a reward you see one day you will find the right person ut you have to learn to trust hem trust is very important in a relationship. the good part in a relationship is the time you spend with eachother the bad part is the day it ends the leason is learning to move on for it our experiences that make us who we are. another thing did u no that being lonley is bad for ur health meaning that haveing someone will increase ur life span and make u happier resulting in a healthier and more positive life. look aroud u what do u see couples together without a care in the world yet so happy what do u see in their eyes happiness isnt that what u want to be happy. to come home evry day to a smiling face a warm welcome and the look of love in ur soalmates yes to be able to come home and seee that someone cares and loves u so much trust me ull never get the reward th memories and the good times untill u get through the bad. it worth evry second ps i hope i helped
2006-12-06 12:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gossip Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting like a chick! So melodramatic. You were 19 for Pete's sake.
Why would you allow your love life to be over at 19? It was just getting started. They make movies about guys like you, you know. 40 Year Old Virgin ring a bell? If you keep this up, it will be you and your aquarium for life.
Start dating again. That was one lousy woman. There are plenty of good ones still to be had. Go get yours.
2006-12-06 12:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by peter n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r just afraid that ur ego will hurt again.
u r a man with lots of sentiments and i respect it. many men dont admit it. well, have a friendship with female then know what they really r like u will meet different type of women and this will help u to know how and what a women feels. then when u think u r in love with one perticular then feel free and xpress ur feeling with love all women wants a man with love and understanding type most important they want a man who is a MAN.
go ahead dear have no fears women are gr8
2006-12-06 12:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still have female friendships and invite them to movies, dinners, concerts, etc.
You dont have to be intimate with any of them.
Explain to them you are out for a good time, no commitments, no strings, just friends.
There are a lot of women who have had heartbreaks and are looking for a casual friendship to escort them to different social functions, and only want the friendship.
You wont get your heart broke this way.
Dont deprive yourself of having honest fun.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-06 12:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that!! You must be planning to be a loner lifelong is you are unable to take the same risks that all of us do to find a partner. You've had time to heal....now get out there and take a few risks. You've learned that a broken heart won't kill you. Good Luck
2006-12-06 12:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry your heart was broken so badly , But I hope you realize that loving comes with risks but believe me its worth it
you are young and have been very busy with your college career so you have had an excuse to forgo a relationship maybe that was for the best but I hope now you will heal and find someone who makes you smile just to think of her
I was married for over 30 and he was my best friend but believe me we had our share of heartaches between us we worked through them and I will always treasure our life
I want that for you I want love for you because to love is to live
Good luck in your Law Career and good love in your future
2006-12-06 12:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't let one person affect you like this. There are going to be sooo many more rejections and experiences you have to go through. Good luck but there are good fish in the sea too. Just got to find em.
2006-12-06 12:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Maria K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your heart may require more time to heal. I don't think that you will always feel this way. I believe that you gave your heart to someone and they hurt you. Believe it or not what you feel is not that uncommon. It is, however, devastating. Especially when it is your first love. But you will recover and you will love again. Give your heart time to mend. Good luck and best wishes!
2006-12-06 12:28:01 · answer #11 · answered by shellese2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋