we did go out when I was 14 (I'm 20 now), i must admit that those were my beautiful two years of my life. he was my best friend since i was 8 but after we hang out with each other and broke up our friendship didn't remain the same. we used to fight a lot (we were friends and than out of the blues he didn't talk to me anymore) but even though we fought i still loved him and he knew it. we fought and made friends a lot of times until i decided that i couldnt go on like this anymore so i decided that i must move on with my life. (the worst thing that happened was when i asked him what was the reason of him not talking to me and he told me that i knew what i did which infact i didn't know). its been one and a half years since we last spoken and this week all of a sudden i received a message from him asking me if we could meet again and talk. i don't know what i will do. something in me keeps saying that i must go, give him another chance, while the other part is saying no. any suggestions?
2006-12-06 04:02:15 · 7 answers · asked by Dianne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a lot of history to toss out over a bad relationship decision. You should see him, maybe enough time has gone by that you can remain friends. Don't go looking to hop into a relationship with him again. But you've both had time to grow and him trying to meet up with you out of the blue like that might be him trying to resolve the past. Or maybe somethings wrong and he knows that after all you've been through he can still always call you a friend when he's in need. Give the friendship another chance.
2006-12-06 04:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is difficult to maintain a friendship with somebody of the opposite sex when you are going through adolesence. The fighting was probably a result of confused and misconstrued feelings. Now that you two have grown up, there is a chance you will be able to surface those feelings that brought you together as friends to begin with.
2006-12-06 12:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lost In Vast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are involved in a dysfunctional relationship that is wasting your time and energy and is preventing you from moving on.
Stop it now. Do not reply to him. Just stop obsessing about the past.
Stop looking at the past as the best years of your life. You're only 20. The best years of your life are yet to come!
2006-12-06 12:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to bring the issues out in the open and make sure that apologies are given when necessary. If so, then you could go on with the friendship, but if not, there might be problems.
2006-12-06 12:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try if you want but from my experience, I think you're romanticizing the past.
Sometimes, after a while, we remember people better than they really were. Be careful about jumping into things too fast and basing anything on your memories. Make him prove himself.
2006-12-06 12:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya. Talk to him. You guys were young. Being adults makes things better for the both of you. You won't be as weak as you were when you were younger if something does go wrong.
2006-12-06 12:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Toni E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.
2006-12-06 12:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by gorn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋