guys please?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been dating for 8 months. I really love him and we just got into a fight and all im thinking is killing myself. he is 1 year younger than me and at his school there is this girl which they are really close everything he tells me he tells her and even more. now wen we qurelled he said that only she (the girl) cares for him and he says that i don't care for him anymore cause i was suppose to meet him today but there is flood on the road an im not allowed to go out without a reason. i turned vex and told him wen i go to heaven don't cry for me. i dont kno wat to do anymore cause he said that i have a problem with he and "his friend" which i don't but i cant talk to any guys that i ever liked before even though we are goods friends cause my bf don't want me too. help please i will really appreciate it

Answer 1

THIS IS MEANT WITH GOOD INTENTIONS:

Would you please get a grip of yourself and grow up! You are obviously an attractive, desireable, and intelligent person who is simply at the end of a relationship. You two have been dating for 8 months, so obviously you have appealing qualities and are worth keeping around.

Don't do something that will end your life, devastate your family and friends, and leave kids (whether your children or nieces and nephews and pets) without you. They will certainly miss you! And is that fair to them? What have they done to be deserving of your selfish actions making them so upset?

You had a life before you met this guy, why do you think you wouldn't have one after him? Why do you think you won't meet someone else who you'll feel 10 times better about? Why do you sell yourself short?

You need to find a better way to resolve your issues. And by that I mean that whenever you are disappointed or upset, you cannot contemplate suicide. You will have let-downs in your life. Use this as a growing experience. What ever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Let this make you stronger.

You have to understand that people lose interest in things once they have them. "Familiarity breeds contempt." This guy simply has found someone new who drives his engine. Not to say that you are less of a person, but that is human nature. You probably have seen some hot guys too while dating this one and thought, 'Mmmm, who is that guy?"

Sh*t happens, life goes on! Think about how many ex-boyfriends you have. Now add one to that number! If this guys doesn't treat you the way you feel you deserve to be treated, then MOVE ON!

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Please don't do anything rash or stupid. Death is final!

Don't you want to meet someone who makes your heart smile as much as your face? That's the beauty of living. "As long as their's life, there's hope." This line was lived by the prisoners at the concentration camps in Germany.

Answer 2

Well, let me first start off sounding like a father or a big-brother. Please don't talk about suicide - you will hurt many people around you, especially the ones who love you. I'm guessing you're in middle or high school and I will tell you that teeanged love is the most intense and shortest lived, because NO ONE is worth the amount of desire you put into it until you get to know who you are. What I mean is that you have to figure out what you want in life: college, career, ambitions and passions. You are a unique individual and will likely attract the person that is best suited for you. Guys (& gals) have a hard time figuring out what they want and your bf might be at that stage in his life...hence why he might very well be interested in other people. Boys, moreso than girls, have a tough time understanding their own emotions and feelings which is why a lot of them seem to be playing the field and do not commit. I would reccommend that you find yourself LOTS of friends and do LOTS of fun things with them to ease your mind and give you a chance to understand yourself better. Our society rushes people into relationships and I think it's so important to hold off as long as you can...

Answer 3

You need professional counseling. I know this sounds like a brushoff, but you have severe co-dependancy issues and need a real licensed counselor to help you.

I think that you being so dependant on this boy's affection and validation is insane, you need to look to yourself for validation. The idea that this boy ANY boy could cause you to seriously think that your life is not worth living without is just crazy.

You need to realize that boys are not a road to self actualization but that a relationship is something so that two full people can share their life.

Please please please get real help. Tell your parents that you feel depressed and really need someone to talk to. Please do this.

Answer 4

i can tell you are very young - and you need counseling already.....you are gonna have a hard life if you dont loosen up some - get over it....move on...killing yourself or even talking like that will only get you a first class ticket to the mental health institution...u have serious issues to deal with ...get help right away...life gets better after age 30...at this rate you wont make it to 30....can you talk to your mother.....talk to someone soon

Answer 5

There's absolutely no reason to kill yourself over this dude. If anything, you should be glad that things are over between you two because he sounds like a real loser. Talk to whoever you want to talk to, your now ex-boyfriend has no right to tell you who to socialize with, especially since he's still hanging out with this other girl.

Good luck.

Answer 6

listen he is not worth losing your life over belive me i had been going out with this girl for a year and a half and thought i would never find or be with anyone any more but you have to hang on you have to take the bad with the good dump him dont fuss about it get with a guy who can trust you well good luck

Answer 7

Killing your self is not the answer...if you need someone to talk to, contact me.
There's a guy out there just waiting for you to find him so he can treat you as the wonderful person that you are.
It's not fair...He's the one cheating and making YOU feel bad for it.

Answer 8

Talk to him and tell hhim what the **** is going on with him and this friend or are they too close when you see him make a move and tell him

P.S.-I hope i helped

Answer 9

you are young.
grow up.