a friend of mine says the mother gets to pick the first and middle name as the baby will have the father's last name.....just curious what everyone thinks....
2006-12-06 03:42:54 · 18 answers · asked by SNAP! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Generally the mother does name the children, as for my personal belief, I went through the nine-ten months of sickness, fatigue, weight gain, body stretching, leg cramps, going to the bathroom 50 times a day, eating everything in sight, having the constipation/ diarrhea, and swollen legs and ankles. I went through the 20 hour - 23 days (with one child I was in labor for 23 days before they finally induced) of labor. This is reason enough for the Mother to name the children. HOWEVER, I would love to have suggestions from anyone and if the Dad had a good name in mind, I would use it, I mean he is the Father after all.
2006-12-06 03:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the mother and father should be able to pick something out that they both like. And that goes for both first and middle name. And the reason behind this is because they are both the parents and their in it together. Now if the father is not in the pic. all the time or anything like that well then it would be the mothers.
2006-12-06 04:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got to choose my son's name Orion because I was single after the father ran away. The second pregnancy (unfortunatly I misscarried) my boyfriend picked the girl firsts name and I picked the middle name, Kya Mari. If I were to have a boy I would get to pick both names as my boyfriend already has a son named after him. Naming the baby was something we dicussed together and made the decision together as to who got to name the first name and second name, or what depending on the baby's sex.
2006-12-06 03:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by redstormrising2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ideal situation is the mother and father should decide what to name their child. Today's children are named by the mom because the fathers don't stick around long enough to do this.
Committed relationship mom and dad names the kid.
2006-12-06 04:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be a mutual choice. My husband and I made this arrangement. He let me pick the name as long as he liked it. So some names that I really liked got shot down because he didn't like them. One recommendation: don't let everyone know the name you choose. Everyone will give their opinions about it and it is impossible to find a name that everyone (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles) will like. After you name your baby, they can't say anything because it's a done deal.
2006-12-06 04:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by KC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to agree, both suggest names and then pick one you both like.
if you cant reach an agreement and your still calling it "it" then look at whos last name it has, he will have his dads last name, so i sugest if you cant agree on a first name, let the father have the middle name or names, and you have the first, as he already has given it his last name
2006-12-06 04:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my first child..with my EX husband ~ we didn't agree on a name PERIOD!!! So I had my GIRL name and he had the BOY name...and all during my pregnancy, I kept saying .." OH BOY OH BOY...I hope it's a girl!! "
Kellie Lyn is about to turn 17 yrs old...With my 1st son...we didn't have a name...and one night he said...NICHOLAS JAMES...I'm like FINE!!...Nicholas James is almost 15 yrs old....
Now...when I got pregnant the 3rd time...my children were much older and they helped me with names..we didn't want to have anyone's friend's name..my husband was just my boyfriend at the time...Adam Tyler...simple and nice...got married...and had ONE more child...we found out it was a boy and named him after his great grandfather...one that he never got to meet...Joseph Donald(my husband's first name)Patrick (the male version of my mom's middle name...Patricia ~ she passed away 2 yrs before he came along..)
Try this...my girlfriend did...take the 4 names you like best...and put them in a hat...let a MUTUAL friend pull 2 from the hat...and there you have the child's first name and middle...
2006-12-06 03:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a compromise, you have to agree on it. The two of you made it together, so you should name him/her together. This should be a joyous time, celebrate it. Have fun. Put the names you like into a hat and draw out one and he can draw out one and those are the names. Good Luck!
2006-12-06 05:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be something they choose together. I would never have picked a name my husband didn't like and wouldn't let him pick a name I didn't like.
We went through *alot* of names before being able to agree on 2 (one boy/one girl).
2006-12-06 03:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately I think it's the mother's decision BUT she shouldn't name the kid something he hates.
I was determined to name my little girl this particular name and my husband wasn't fond of it (not a weird name- just a classic name) I wasn't going to budge! He got to choose the middle name but now LOVES her first name. It fits her to a 'T'. :)
2006-12-06 04:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋