i have been with my boyfriend for over 2 yrs.about 8 months ago he was sleeping and i answered his phone it was his ex whom i had no idea that he still talks too.later on i found out that she is friends with one of his family members and when she told her about us living together thats when she got in touch with him .this is the same woman that just got up and left one day saying she needed space to go to school .but yet when he used to try and call her she wouldnt call him back he did that before he met me .she has tried everything to come between us but the last straw came on his birthday when she text him and i asked her in a nice way to please leave him alone and she called me out of my name .well my boyfriend was hot and called her and told her she has no right to do that .a couple weeks later she called him again and we had a huge fight i finally told him it was her or us .was i wrong to do this .
2006-12-06 03:38:10 · 7 answers · asked by ANGEL L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are two important things to understand. One, if he really didn't want to talk to her, he wouldn't. Period.
Two, you're just living with and having sex with the guy. Unless you're his wife, you have no right to demand anything of him. He can see or talk to whomever he wishes.
2006-12-06 03:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not how good you and your boyfriend are. It seems like your awesome because youve been together for so long. If you guys are in a good relationship then I wouldnt be too worried becaus eteh first and most important thing in a relationship is trust. If you dont have that they why be togetehr. Secondly the next thing you need in a relationship is honesty, and respect. If his ex girlfriend is doing somethign you dont like then you can ask her yourself to stop calling. If she disrespects you then i would bring it up to your boyfriend if he truly loves you then he would do somethign about it. Maybe hes not goinna stop talking to her completely but maybe things will change, and if things work that way then maybe later u and his ex could even make friends. Just dont allow him to hang out. Talking on the ohone no big deal but i wouldnt let him take it past that becaus ethen thats disrespectful. I dont think you did anythign wrong i just think that your concerned and thats the right way to be
2006-12-06 03:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by bubbysgurl888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, pretty much. if it bothers you that much, all you can do is express that to him. your insecurities are what's causing your reactions to this. realise he's with you and not her. if you really think there's a chance that he'd leave you to get back with her, you have to already have a good line of communication set up with your boyfriend and your approach has to come off as sincere and not harping. if you're getting into fights over this, you're coming off to him as untrusting. if his ex does have ulterior motives, let your boyfriend handle it. trust him to handle it. if he's immature and selfish, you might be better off without him anyway.
2006-12-06 03:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to let this woman know that she needs to go about her life cause he has. For some reason I feel that there may be more to this story & I think you did the right thing to let him know that enough is enough.Good Luck!
2006-12-06 03:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong to be jealous of her but if he loves u u got to trust him with ur heart some love lasts a lifetime true love lasts forever
2006-12-06 03:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey honey you do what you feelt you should do but don't worry about it i think it is defenitely normal to be curios but don't tell him to not speak to her i mean if you trust him to be your boyfriend why shouldn't you trust him on this ,but just tell him that you don't feel confortable when he is around her and that he should not give her his time much
2006-12-06 03:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by meha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from what you wrote he is trying to get her to leave yall alone..... and no it isnt wrong for you to ask him not to talk to her... she is trying to break you up because she is jealous becasue she cant have him anymore and she wants what she cant have...
2006-12-06 03:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋