My son is almost 15 months, and not walking on his own yet. He won't even stand alone. He is fine if he is holding onto something. Doctor says not to worry, but I am worried. Also does your husband help you? My husband rarely helps me. I'm a stay home mom and he works all day, but I NEVER get a break.
2006-12-06 03:31:25 · 22 answers · asked by ? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son and I are here alone all day, We only have one car which my husband uses to get to work, I live to far away from town for playgroups, and none of my friends have kids. My husband is also never around on weeekends, so i'm stuck all weekend without a car too.
2006-12-06 03:48:05 · update #1
My son was 14 or 15 months. My husband does help but he just returned a week ago after a year deployment to Iraq so I was on my own for a long time.
I wouldn't worry about him not walking yet but I would talk to your husband about helping you. You need to leave for the weekend and leave him alone w/ your son, then he will appreciate everything you do and probably help you out more.
2006-12-06 06:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom sounds really stressed out. I hope you are getting involved in play dates with your son. If dad doesn't want to help, and they frequently don't, find a day care center or another mom, who can take the baby a couple of times a week so you can have some free time.
Insist that dad help you. Marriage and parenting is not a free ride. Don't let him feed you that old I'm the bread winner crap.
If your doctor told you not to worry, don't worry. Ask him when it would be considered a concern for him not to be walking. I am assuming that all of his other growth milestones are within normal limits. Don't stress by yourself. Talk to the pediatrician. Sometimes with first time moms, they can be a little dismissive of your concerns. Assert yourself mom. You are your child's advocate.
Dealing with my children's pediatricians was how I became an assertive, confident person. Remember, they work for you. If you feel something is wrong, get a second opinion.
Perhaps he just needs a little more prodding. Have dad walk him into the middle of the room while you're waiting several feet away. Have dad start him walking and then let go while you're kneeling with open arms for him with maybe his favorite toy or a bottle.
Try not to get overwhelmed mom. Most of the time, the kids are just fine. Good luck.
2006-12-06 11:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son walked at 11 months and my daughter at 10, If your doctor says not to worry you really shouldn't. I understand how you feel, if you your child isn't doing things right on time or before you feel like a failure but your not, their is a lot of pressure as a mother to have the perfect kid. you feel like you did something wrong and it's your fault trust me, it's not. Just have your doctor watch his legs to see if their might be a problem their. As far as your husband being away i understand that too, my husband is deployed to Iraq so I'm doing all the work. If you guys can afford it you should really get another car You and your baby should be out socializing that's not healthy for you of the baby to be at home all the time. Good luck
2006-12-06 12:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by daddys_girl319 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son started walking soon after his first birthday. But they do say that boys develop slower than girls. If they find crawling or scooting easier, they will do that. If your doc says its ok then I wouldnt worry much. If you are still worried, take him to a developmental specialist.
As far as my husband goes, when we had our first son 17 months ago, he was the best help ever. He stayed up nights, feedings, diapers, he did it all. He recently changed jobs to a more demanding job that pays way better. The trade off with that is he no longer has time or the desire to help me do much at all. I am exhausted!!!! I am having another baby on friday and I am terrified that I won't be able to do it. I wish they understood that a stay at home mother has a full time job that never ends and has no vacation pay!!! Hang in there, and good luck!
2006-12-06 11:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by mystratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
My son was over 2 years old when he started walking... YES OVER 2 YEARS OLD! Can you believe that?? Well yes I was very concerned and we took him to many specialists to make sure he was ok. Every test we did came back negative so the only reason they gave us for his delay is that we held him too much and that we babied him too much as well. I'll admit that yes we held him often and didn't give him enough "floor time" so I have to say my hubby and I hold complete responsibility for his delays.
My suggestion is to get him a walking toy - not a walker but one that he can stand up and push while walking. This is the only thing that helped my son. He eventually started to pull up on it and push it until he hit a wall - after a little while he learned how to control it and begin pushing it everywhere.
We also got him into ECI program for children with delays. It helped a lot too, check into something like that for you child.
If anyone knows your frustration IT'S ME! :-)
Oh and about the hubby not helping you out - ya well it's very common. Men just think that we should be the sole caregiver of the children. It has a lot to do with them not understanding kids like we do. My hubby helps me out quite a bit (thank God) but I know way more men who don't. You need to talk to your hubby and explain to him that your home ALL DAY LONG and you'd like a one day for about an hour or two to yourself. Just to collect you thoughts and know that you can do other things not just take care of children all day. I've found in my marriage that communication is the best thing to practice.
Sarah
2006-12-06 12:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by La Chula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was running at 11 months, but all babies develope differently. i just played with a 17 month of boy who isnt walking yet, but his intellect seems right on par with a 17 month old. i am sure it is absolutely nothing to worry about. just let your doctor know if you notice anything else, and he will keep an eye out for any developemental problems, which i really doubt your son has. just keep encouraging the walking, and it will come. maybe he just like to be carried! wouldn't you?
as far as your husband, i was in the same situation. it's hard, i know, but i didn't really know what to do about it either. my son is 27 months old now, and my husband is so much better about spending time with him. i think that when children are that young, and they are still so dependent, a lot of fathers let it all go to the mom. have you talked to your husband about it? try telling him that your son seems to miss daddy a lot, and would probably enjoy some quality time together every night. for us, my husband took over doing bath time, so that was one time reserved for just daddy. as your son gets bigger and more active, your husband will probably naturally spend more time with him. good luck!
2006-12-06 11:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my daughters was 10 months. The other walked at 11 months. they are 2 & 3 now. My husband has his moments but for the most part its all on me!!! I am not a stay at home mom but you will just have to figure out a routine and it will get easier!!!!
2006-12-06 11:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by ncc742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter started walking when she was about 10 months old, but dont feel bad my husbands friend has a baby sister and she is 11 months old and she cant even crawl yet! And yes my husband did help me as much as he could, he works all of the time so when she was a baby I didnt expect him to get up through the night with her but when he was off he got up with her and let me sleep.
2006-12-06 11:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children all walked at different ages. From age 6 months to two years. Yep 2 years old. I agree with Dr. Don't worry. Try and let your son do more on his own that way he may want to walk more quickly. Seriously patience is a virtue with kids!
2006-12-06 11:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
daughter - 9 months
daughter - 13 months
son - 10 months
i know people whose children went to 18 months and they are fine. my husband helped me a great deal when i was staying at home...so much so it actually made me lazy. you might have to do what my girlfriend did...she waited by the door for her husband to come home...handed him the baby...grabbed her keys and left to go shopping. he had no choice but to help. maybe you can just ask him to start with something simple...allowing you to sleep in for a couple of hours on the weekend...you may have to prove to him that stay at home moms have a more than full-time job.
2006-12-06 11:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by aboogie72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋