there is this guy and we went out awhile ago and we are still friends. We still talk on the phone and stuff and when we do he tells me that he still has feelings for me, and all this other stuff...like he likes being around me, i make him feel good as a person and down there. He tells me all this stuff and i wonderedmaybe he really does still have feelings for me and stuff. But then a friend of mine asked him if he still liked me and he said no ive been done with that.. and she would not lie to me! so idk if all what he is telling me is a lie or if its the turth...i dont konw what to believe. i think that he does still care about me but he doesnt want otther people to know that. What should i do?? Who should i believe?
2006-12-06 03:30:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there done that. He's trying to keep you on the hook as a back up plan or for sex. Drop him girl. You can do better than that.
2006-12-06 03:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Melli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look to your friends for guidance but always go with what you believe. You probably know him a little more than your friends do since you dated him before. Do you trust him? You said you still think he cares about but afraid of other people to know. That isn't very good if thats the case because then it would seem as if he were ashamed of you and just wants something else from you. But maybe not, maybe he does really care but just doesn't know how to handle it. Listen to your own heart and take what you know about him into consideration. Remember, friends can give the best advice or the worst. Listen to what they have to say but make the final decision based on what you know and feel. Don't lie to yourself to make you want to go back with him, be truthful and look at every aspect. Trust that the decision you make is the best because only you know YOU! Good luck and hope everything works out with whatever you choose
2006-12-06 12:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me also...To be totally honest he was at that time just keeping me on the hook as a backup, just in case the new thing didn't workout. Does your friend have a reason to lie to you about his...Probably not! What should you do...only you can make that call. everyone is going to tell you just what they would do...but remember this as you chose. When told if I were you, I would...If they were truly you with all the emotion and all the facts that only you possess...They would make the same decisions as you make for yourself. For myself, I hung in there and am happily married to the man who was so confused and unsure at one time.
Good Luck in the choices you make.
2006-12-06 11:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are,but guys will say anything to get what they want,and girls too.your friend might be telling you that because she wants a chance at him.who have you known longer?can you really trust your friend?why don't you sit both of them down and talk ,you can tell who is lying to you when you see the look of someones face .
there's always more fish in the sea,,go fishing.see what's out there.
2006-12-06 11:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having sex with him, I'd hestitate believing what he's telling you. When someone feels for someone, they dont usually deny it to others. On the other hand, how well do you know this 'friend of yours'? Maybe a 3rd opinion from someone you know would better confirm which one is telling the truth.
2006-12-06 11:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should think about it n not list3n 2-wat ur fri3ndz say n if thingz r good b3tw33n u both n h3 asks u out say y3s but dont g3t 2-car3d away h3 might just want som3thing oth3r than a r3lationship lyk3 just plain s3x
2006-12-06 11:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by ricantrukamami08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you say that your friend will never lie to you, then you basicly just answerd your own question! mabe he does like and care about you very much, but if he did he wouldn't be shy to tell some one that. i think you now what to do. or you can confont him about it. but be carefull. people in love tend to do stupid things!
(like mess up a great friendship)
a friendship is much more worth than a phase of infactuation.
2006-12-06 11:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by ladybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get both your friends in the same room and confront them to find out how is lieing.
2006-12-06 11:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by Castle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chicks before *icks unless you think that she might like him I would believe her. Guys lie all the time he may just want a piece ..
2006-12-06 11:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by karebear0603 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible but maybe he is just trying to get you to have fasle hope and then bring it down on you after he gets what he wants. It is possible he just doesn't want anyone to know either. My advice is to watch your back and be careful with what ever you do.
2006-12-06 11:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋